that your life is over just because you get pregnant! I mean ya it's good to wait, but if it happens it doesn't end your life! I have a son and a new stepson, and I have a great life! I just don't understand why you say your life is over!!
2006-12-02 05:56:59 · 28 answers · asked by ME 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
to antonio: I think it was a blessing that I had my son before I met my husband, it helped weed out the jerks like you! And just because you cant go out, doesn't mean your life is over, I had my son when I was 20, and I don't miss going out....
2006-12-02 06:01:28 · update #1
I don't know either! Personally having my daughter gave my life purpose and drive! Sure I can't go out clubbing every night and get drunk out of my mind every other day like the rest of the college kids I know but then again those aren't really good life practices now are they? And Antonio that's ok because us women with "baggage" dont date men without souls.
2006-12-02 08:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you have a child and you aren't ready (on a financial level, maturity level, mental level or whatever) you may not bond with your child and actually resent it for ending your life as you know it. Narcicisstic people who are accustomed to thinking the world revolves around them can not fathom having someone else to think of before they think of themselves. I have seen it happen where a young mother refuses to bond with her child-- hands them off to whomever whenever the opportunity arises, leaves for hours and hours, and upon returning, does not miss the child, will not hold the child, or even acknowledge the child. The child becomes a burden, a chore-- something to avoid at all costs. It is sad, but true. And those children grow up with serious behavioral and psychological issues. So, you may have been ready-- mentally-- to have a child. Others are not and I don't think they should be forced to have one if they don't want one. Of course, I'm just playing devil's advocate here. For me personally, I don't consider my life complete until I have a child. More than a successful career or a large bank account, I look forward to having kids.
2006-12-02 14:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when I was 18, had my 1st baby when I was 19, I wouldn't change that for anything! I am now 23 years old, and the mother of 3 beautiful girls, aged 4, 2, and almost 6 months (all with the same father). My Dad told me that I ruined my life and I still hold that against him. I think it's rude for people to say such things. Just because THEY feel that way, does not in any way give them the right to imply that EVERYONE feels this way. People need to mind their business and keep their mouths and stupid opinions to themselves and other idiots that agree with them.
2006-12-02 14:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT say anyone's life is over when they become a parent. I have four kids, and my life is very full and rewarding. I think what people may mean, is that yor life CHANGES when you become a parent, and it should! Now you will be considering another human's needs above your own, but you don't stop considering your own needs also. Some people's lifestyle changes drastically, others don't, depending on what their life was like previously.
2006-12-02 14:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by bestfriendthemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your single life is over. The life you had before children is over. Now your new life with children begins. Life changes after children, it's no secret. It's best to wait to have children until you are ready to accept responsibility for them. Now whatever you do, what you say, who you hang out with all effects someone else other than yourself. It effects your children now. So maybe now you understand why people say your life is over. The life as you knew it.... is actually over. But you have a better life now, one with purpose.
2006-12-02 14:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by almondjoy_1000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people think like that. But these are the same people that make the desicion to have unprotected sex. To them going out partying is more important than staying home and taking care of the little miracle that God blessed them with.
2006-12-02 18:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have children just because it's "a thing to do". Those are not happy with children and maybe should reconsider whether to have any in the first place.
2006-12-02 13:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally with your outlook. But it is scary at first. I think some people tend to over react to it being a bad thing because it wasn't done purposely.
2006-12-02 14:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥N,K,E&DJ'§ Mommy♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As your children get older you will have less and less time for yourself. Volunteering at school, boy/girl scouts, team sports, dentist and doctor appointments, homework help, shopping continuously for clothes because they keep outgrowing them, more time spent at the grocery store because they eat. What they mean is that your children's needs come first, and you come second.
2006-12-02 14:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ppl go back to their own experience of life, but if someone very young get pregnant it will be very hard on her... not that her life is over but her fun part of life is not the same anymore
2006-12-02 13:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋