Everyone knows at least one woman who seems to enjoy being tormented physically and mentally within her Relationships with her partner/Spouse? Why do these random women seem to only be happy while being slapped around and yelled at abusively?
2006-12-02 05:48:29 · 17 answers · asked by Evilish13 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I can explain this one. I know from personal experience its not that we like it, so uch as to its what we're used to. Not to long ago I was in an abusive relationship with someone and I always got tossed around, hit, bitten, hair pulled you name it. Did that for a year. I kept thinkin he'd change, it wasnt that big a deal, maybe I deserved it, he's sorry...etc Every excuse in the book. Then he went to jail for a warrent that he had in another city. When he left I was single for a bit then when I found out that he was gonna be there a while I wrot ehim a letter explaining I couldnt be with him anymore and then I moved on. I got into a new relationship not to long ago with this really sweet guy. And I couldnt believe what I had to ask him. I asked him, to be rough with me.. to be forceful. And he didnt understand why I wanted him to inflict pain on me. We stopped going out but are still great friends and mess around a little ;) But I was just so used to gettin smacked or bein mistreated that Its what I was conditioned to. I'm startin to get over it now, but it takes a long time. I'm seein that its not a normal thing to be hit and thrown around.
But to some it up, dont ever think that the women like it. Its just that its all they know... or at least all their used to. We're not really happy when this is happening, we try to make ourselves think we are. Good Luck....hope this helped in some way.
2006-12-02 06:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ash420Granito 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do they really enjoy being slapped around and yelled at? I don't think so, but I do know that some women will accept such behavior as normal and overlook it for the things they like in the relationship--like security and someone who is nice sometimes.
Often these women had either no father at home or one who was just as bad, so they have nothing healthy to compare their relationship to.
A woman who feels good about herself and her abilities will set much higher expectations and not settle so easily for the crumbs these abusive men offer. She will also recognize that being alone is preferable to being with a bad man.
2006-12-02 13:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They're not happy, per se, but they don't want to risk losing whatever love the guy might be faking. It usually stems from paternal abuse — she now sees the boyfriend as a sort of father figure, and therefore doesn't want to risk upsetting him, as the father is the most important male in a woman's life. Similarily, the abusive men learn these practices from their own fathers. Both parties need serious therapy in these situations.
2006-12-02 14:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some have been raised in that environment and think that true love is being beat all the time.
Some have low self esteem and think they can't get anyone else and they concentrate on that 10 minutes of the day when he's "ok".
Some are afraid for their life to leave the abuse and feel trapped.
2006-12-02 13:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most often they have grown up in a family situation where they have watched their Mom's being slapped around. And then they hear their parents proclaiming how much they "love" each other. We are all, to a certain extent, products of our environment.
2006-12-02 13:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Low self- Esteem
2006-12-02 13:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by bingomom 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's their calling in life. If they didn't exist then the violent abusive men would have no one to have sex with. Everybody needs somebody and these men need these women. These women need these men. They are made for each other.
2006-12-02 13:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe ANYBODY enjoys that....it is possible she is scared to leave,or their self esteem is so low they don't believe they can get any better....abusers will knock their partner so low they don't feel like they have a way out!!! You wouldn't understand that unless it has happened to you!
2006-12-02 13:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by sugar_n_spice 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its called unconditional love...women hope the guy will change and they stick around , take the torture and wait..they dont wanna lose the guy and leave only when they realize there is no hope for a change
2006-12-02 13:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
they are not really happy.....they think they don't deserve any better....they need help but are reluctant to get it again feeling like they are getting what they deserve...some manage to get out and move on...others die at the hands of their abusers...it's a very sad thing......
2006-12-02 13:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋