I met this gorgeous 40 yo ,I was 17 years younger. I suppose at first it was sort of a novelty and exciting to be with someone older,very attractive I must add.At first it was all about sneaking around,going out all the time and having the best sex ever,but gradually we both fell head over heels in love.I moved in and got on well with her two daughters.The problem was though, that I loved her so much that I was constantly worrying about the future,especially with the age gap. This worrying and neurosis started to eat away at the relationship and eventually we split for a while. Months later we got back together but I decided to not move back in with her as I felt things were great as they were. Things were good,but as I was approaching the big 30, I made a decision to buy a flat and get myself on the property ladder (she has a lovely home of her own) It made things worse.We split,shes found someone her own age,I have seen her recently and we ended up in bed twice.She stil with him tho.
2006-12-02 05:35:52 · 13 answers · asked by BigGman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's confused, the same way you are. She doesn't know what she wants and what is right for her. Selfishness from her side? Psychological issues...?
You need to move on and save your love for someone who would deserve it, really, and who would not sleep with a guy twice although both of you are in a relation. Think about the other guy's situation.
CraZii, you are too right.
2006-12-02 05:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she wants to string you along IN CASE things don't work with this new guy, or she just wants to use you as a booty call. I know from experience that sleeping with your ex may seem ok, but it just makes it that much harder to let that person go. There always seems to be one person who couldn't care less and one who's still completely attached in these situations. You need to cut off all contact with her. The only way you can begin to heal is by acknowledging that the relationship is truly over. She's not helping the situation AT ALL by her actions. But it's YOUR responsibility not to put yourself in this position. By sleeping with her repeatedly while she has a boyfriend, your telling her that what she's doing is fine, and she'll just keep going as long as you let her. If she really cares about you, she'll let you go so you can move on with your life just as she has. I'll tell you one thing though, it sounds to me like she wants a man who's dependent on her. Just when you start establishing something in life that's important to you, something you can say you've accomplished on your own, she bails. This is not a good thing. It seems as though she wants a man who will fit into her lifestyle in a way that she doesn't have to be inconvenienced at all. She's thinking with her head, and not her heart. But when you love someone, you have to put in the effort to make the relationship work. Relationships mean sacrifice. My new quote lately is " RELATIONSHIPS ARE A CONSTANT EFFORT ON BOTH SIDES." You're better off just telling her that you're done. Then give yourself time. It will get easier as you go on with daily life. Go out, have fun, even date CASUALLY. But right now you need to concentrate on healing and being happy by yourself. As my mom says, "you have to learn to be alone without being lonely."
2006-12-02 06:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-29 21:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a generation gap here, and she's starting to think in the areas your not willing to think for yourself in. having someone her age is great and you should think about finding someone your age too> Sorry I can't be of anymore help and if you can't take the truth don't be with her, it's that simple ! you were only there for sex and got used until she started thinking straight. it's tough being used but women are good at that too !
2006-12-02 05:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by puppylovetfp.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a younger girlfriend this time and then call the ex an old bag the hurt will go away very quickly then!
2006-12-02 06:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by hitech_djeric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 14:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think she is like a 100 now move on and get someone new
2006-12-02 05:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. But im not even hurting really. Im used to getting broken up with. She may not be the one for you. Try another girl.
2006-12-02 05:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know what she wants or is she playing games?Have a heart to heart with her and no more sex if ya can. See what she does. I would find someone new to trust.
2006-12-02 05:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just her rebound. When she and her new man fights, she'd go to you. She knows you still like her, and she's just using you. She can't make up her mindd. You can do so much better than that.
2006-12-02 05:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Tinaa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋