Does anyone(including you, the parent) have the right to touch a child's bottom in pain or playful pleasure?

Question

After children can wash themselves, should parents be touching their children's bottoms at all(patting, rubbing, smacking, hitting, tickling,etc.)-unless it's some rare emergency? Why are children's bodies subjected to adult touching without request, and many times AGAINST their request-and yet this is criminal once you are over 18?

Answer 1

No one should ever have the right to hit their children. It is always the same excuse: "My parents did it and I turned out well". But did they? Who talks about 'needing' to be hit except insomuch as to justify the angry (anyone who could lay on a hand on someone in 'love' needs to rethink their priorities) behavior of their loved ones. Children trust their parents/guardians. When those that they trust most commit battery against them (because, really, that's what it is) they learn only to fear. Respect is something earned, and surely not by force. I hear so many people justifying their right to hit others because they too were hit, but only because they 'deserved it'. Noone deserves that, ever. Call it a spat, a whack, a spank - it is hitting. Hitting is unacceptable. And hitting your own children? Despicable. Things weren't "better" way back when most people smacked their children. The same majority who hurt their children in the '50s have children who continue that pattern. In a recent survey, 96% of people admitted that they would or had hit their children. Thus, we are treating children no differently then 'they' did back then. Then we wonder, generation after generation, why the next batch are "not as good as they used to be." It's a lot of ridiculousness. There are some absolutely wonderful kids out there, but they rarely get talked about because it is the media's job to present news the public wants - and the public rarely wants a happy story. Please think before assaulting your children. You want to make a noise to distract them? Smack your own hand. If when they are very young they run across the street, wonder why you weren't keeping a more careful eye on them. It happens often accidentally and the need to pull your child from danger is inherent, but the grabbing itself and a simple, firm "No! You will get hurt!" is more than enough to suffice. Those who say a child is not old enough to understand the word "No" haven't the right to say that hitting the child will make him understand what behavior he's done wrong. It doesn't work that way. The child too young to understand "no" will not understand "why" he was hit. Please keep your hands off your children! There is no such thing as a "loving spat". When you hit someone to teach (or 'train', as so many are fond of saying) you commit assault. Period. The best way to recognize that violence begets violence is to listen to the adults who were hit as children and admit to hitting their own children.

Answer 2

After children are old enough to bathe themselves the only time their bottoms should be touched is if they are being spanked or in the rare case that they need medication there (my little brother had chicken pox EVERYWHERE even INSIDE his little bottom so the doctor gave my mom some stuff to keep it from being painful). Every child has the right to say no and I think that is something that people need to teach their children. They need to be taught the difference between "good touch" and "bad touch" and told that they can say no to ANYBODY who tries to "bad touch" them no matter who it is and they need to tell an adult.

Answer 3

It's possible I don't understand the question, but any type of sexual touching is NEVER ok. My four year old is incredibly ticklish right where her leg meets her butt, and so she gets tickled there occasionally. Also, a playful pat on the butt "get out of here" style I think is also acceptable. If the child is sick and needs help wiping (diarrhea, etc.) that too is ok. I have never believed in bare-bottomed spanking, I think it's humiliating to the child and completely unnessesary. If you think someone is unacceptably touching a child please please please call your local human services! No one should have to go through that!

Answer 4

I don't believe it is necessarily bad to touch your child in that area, unless your intentions are for sexual plasure but merely just to play with them, give them a sense of humor and even to show them esepcially if it's a girl that you are the only one that can actually touch them in that spot, my mom did it to me, and for a long time i didn't know why but then i realized she was telling me never to let boys touch me in personal places, i'm from a culture where it is not considered sick unless again there is those sexual intentions to touch or talk about your child's parts to them.

Answer 5

you comprehend the way they say something like "We fell into one yet another's palms?" that very almost actually occurred with my mom and father. My aunt replaced into transferring out of my grandparents' abode, and her pal helped her flow, and he knew my father, and so my father went alongside for the experience at the same time as my aunt's pal helped her flow, and my mom replaced into tagging alongside for the experience, to boot, and at the same time as my mom were given interior the again seat of the automobile, my father replaced into already sitting there which include his arm out and resting on the again of the seat, as if it replaced into an arm relax, and my mom ended up sitting the position my father's arm replaced into prolonged out. So, my mom and father met interior the again seat of a automobile, with my father's arm around the position my mom sat down.

Answer 6

once thwey are able to bathe themselves no one should be down there period. I was a victim for most of childhood. If you beleive in spankings then that's different but no child should be subjected to being touched in a sexually way at all EVER!!!!

Answer 7

I believe with drommamomma's answer, no touching to pleasure. That is not allowed, it proves a sick mind. And yes discipline when administered,ie.spanking ,should still be done with the child's feelings in consideration.

Answer 8

When they can bathe themself no one should touch down their at all. I also believe no body should spank a child unless it's their parent.

Answer 9

Most definitley not would be my answer, but I do not believe in spanking for a child's punishment. But for the parents that do believe in spanking, I think they should not be aloud to make the child pull their pants down to do it.

Answer 10

uh.... no! I'm a mother of 3 and the only time I touch my children down there is to wipe their @$$!!!