I love my girl to death, and I don't want her to leave. I am really attached to her and get sad 2 days with out her. She wants to move to a different city for a job that, in my mind, she doesn't have to take. I graduate college in a year and have a nice job already lined out. Is it right to ask her to wait? She already has a good paying job here, but she wants bigger and better. We want to get married, but I honestly don't know if I can handle a long distance relationship. I'm already depressed about her moving, I don't want to go without the little things. What should I do? Your help is appreciated.
2006-12-02 05:15:09 · 11 answers · asked by Matt A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should forget her, unless you want to move there with her. And I don't mean move to follow her, I mean for your own reasons. And she should be more considerate if her current job is as good as you say. I think you should talk to her. But make sure your marriage plans are mutual. I have my doubts about that, because she would not be planning to leave you like that if she wanted to marry you. If she doesn't change her tune, and it would be a problem for you to go with her, forget her completely and find another girl. I really think you will need to give up on her, because it seems like she would have said something about your relationship as soon as she found out about the job if the relationship was that important to her. She isn't worth it if she would leave you for a job. Just think . . . if you marry her, you could get sick or hurt and need her to take care of you. If she would leave you because of a job, do you really trust her to be there for you? Is she worth your trouble? You may have to go through many more women to meet a suitable one. Good luck!
2006-12-02 05:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand when me and my husband were dating we spent most of our relationship 11 hours away from each other. I only saw him at Thankgivingfor two weeks, Christmas for two weeks, and spring break for a week. He waould be gone fro 3-4 months at a time and it was hard to be apart but we knew that we loved each other and that we were going to get married someday. We talked every night and sent cards but that went on for two years. I felt that the long distance made our relationship so much better and we got married a year before we thought we would. We couldn't be alone anymore. When we saw each other it was the most amazing time adn I don't regret that time apart. It does work and if your love thins person you should support her and know that being apart will make you appreciate her more and vis versa. It was the best for us even though it was hard. Good luck.
2006-12-02 05:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow the hell up!!!
Jeeesh dude, you're not ready for any relationship if you get depressed not being around her for a couple days. I say seek some serious mental help, get past your attachment issues, learn to deal with day to day activities and then when you've accomplished that...and...graduate from college and establish yourself as a real man, then perhaps you should consider a relationship.
I foresee a ruined relationship in your very near future, and it is because of how you act, and react. Stop being a puppy, a whiney baby, a whimp, and fix your problems before you ruin anyone elses...
WC
2006-12-02 05:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Wandering C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will only be long distance for 1 year. See if you both value your relationship to do this. Good luck.
2006-12-02 05:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her so much for who she is and everything about her and you wnat to get married then let her go for that job but if you love her and don't want a distant realationship then ask her if she'll stay with her current job so that you won't be distant she'll understand.
2006-12-02 05:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds you've got a dilema on your hands, a marital problem before the cerimony! You should ask her to wait.
2006-12-02 05:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of u sit down and weigh the pros and the cons!!
2006-12-02 05:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move with her.
2006-12-02 05:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move with her.
2006-12-02 05:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really trust her u should be alright. Let her know u love and and visit her!
2006-12-02 05:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋