My mother has made my 18yr old daughter soul beneficary of her and my dad's estate...She has 3 other grandchildren...2 from my brother(who she doesnt talk to at all) and 2 from me...We are not close at all and probably never will be..to much has hapened in our past for things to change now...please help me any way that you can, because my daughter feels terrible even though its not her fault.
2006-12-02 04:51:56 · 14 answers · asked by Michele 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I know how you feel.I have 3 children I know my Mother in law loves them but she has always payed ALOT of attion t0o my daughter who is 14.My Mother in law was going to leave her home to my daughter until she found a man to marry and her son went to prison and saving it for him when he gets out in 6 yrs.There is nothing you can d put put in the hands of God and also tell her how you feel good luck
2006-12-02 04:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family sounds like my dysfunctional, squabbling family. Your mother has the right to leave her estate to anyone she wishes. What your father say or does she run the show? I think her children could contest the will because the estate should come to them first but family may not do that to a younger member. Your mother is eliminating her other grandchildren to punish their parents. Its a terrible situation and there is no easy solution for it. Sometimes we have to let the chips fall. Things sometimes work themselves out on their own after some time has passed. I never thought I'd speak to my brothers again but after my mother got too out of control, we had to talk about her mental status. Now, we are closer than ever and she has no credibility.
2006-12-02 13:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by robinallsup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As sole beneficiary, after your 18yr old inherits whatever your parents leave, she can give away whatever part of the estate she wants to others. Talk to her and maybe she can consult an attorney for the legal ways to handle this situation. I sorry you have such a lousy relationship with your mother but don't let the money cause more problems between the family, just let it go if you have to, you miss it if you never had it...just not worth dwelling on...too bad you mother doesn't care that she is causing her family such pain. Good luck.
2006-12-02 13:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by jesshispet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change your mother and there's no point in trying. The more you try, the more she'll dig her heels in.
If your daughter feels terrible, there is no law stating that she has to accept the estate or that she cannot accept it and then dole it out evenly amongst all of the grandchildren.
When your mother dies, an estate lawyer will be able to help you with these questions.
2006-12-02 12:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter has nothing to feel terrible about, she didn't do anything to cause this situation.
It's sad and unfortunate that your family doesn't get along with your mom, whatever the reasons. However, you mother can do whatever she wants to with her money and her estate. The fact that she decided to not leave anything to her other grandchildren was her choice (and something that she will have to live with).
Don't let this cause anymore problems for your family, it's not up to you to fix this. Good luck.
2006-12-02 13:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat right now but with more people!!! It has been going on for years. Do not even think about it till she dies. Things might change by then.My sons feel terrible too, even tried to compete for grams love. I did too at 1st then I realized the lady needs a shrink!!!!!!!!!!!She can try to split up the fam but in the long run she will pay for it.I could go on and on. Please get some counseling for your kids and yourself to help out. Blood is not always thicker than water!
2006-12-02 13:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your mothers choice, weather anybody thinks its a wrong choice or not.i think you can contest the will though. after all there are more grand children. ask a lawyer about contesting the will, they will help you. sometimes you can get a lawyer pro-bono. which means free. a least consult with one on this issue. good luck and tell your daughter, she had no control of what your mother did with her will. she has no need to feel responsable for your mother actions.
2006-12-02 13:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by chrystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, your 18 yr old needs to talk to her Grandma. It's not really your issue to debate. If she feels so terrible, she needs to talk to your mother. Obviously they have some kind of relationship, so talk to your daughter and let her know that she's the only one who really has the right to confront her grandmother. Best of luck, hang in there!
2006-12-02 12:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Spudnic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your mother is cruel for doing this just because you and your brother aren't close to her doesn't mean that your children can't be. maybe your daughter (if she really feels guilty) could simply tell her grandmother that she would feel much better if the others were included.
2006-12-02 12:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels that badly, then she could always split the inheritence 4 equal ways. But dont tell the grandparents about this plan.
2006-12-02 12:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋