My soon to be husband and I are about to move into a big house together. He use to live in it. So he knows all about it. It is a really nice three bedroom to bath really big house. But the only problem I have with it is when he and his family use to live in it his step dad had a heart atck and died in there living room. So should I ? Or shouldn't I?
2006-12-02 04:47:52 · 18 answers · asked by Hugs and Kisses 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would have no problem with it. Death is part of the life cycle, and people die in many different places.
My husband's grandfather died while he and his wife and my husband and I all were playing a domino game. His head just fell over on the table, he made a noise like he was snoring, and he was gone suddenly. We were playing in the family room of the big house.
My husband's mother and father moved into this same house with his grandmother and lived there for many years. We had many family get-together there. After a period of time, we never even thought about the death of his grandfather taking place there.
There is nothing abnormal about this. Life goes on, you know.
2006-12-02 10:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's a state-to-state law, but sellers of every house MUST sign a disclosure stating that no one has died in the house according to their knowledge. So, stating that there are plenty of houses out there in the same circumstances is irrelevent.
We pressured my grandmother into selling us her rental house before the sick woman living there died. Yeah, pretty cold, right? We knew that we were eventually going to sell it, and due to the disclosure clause, it would be more difficult to sell and we'd probably have to lower the price. The value would automatically be lower because of the house's history. If you seriously don't ever plan to sell the house, then it isn't a financial issue. So, let's move on.
Would it creep me out knowing that someone died in the house I'm about to own? It really depends on the circumstances. If it were a violent death wrought with emotion, then I'd have a hard time. If it were a health-issue, such as a heart attack in an elderly person, I don't think it would bother me so much. This is assuming that it won't bother your fiance. Was he close to his step dad? Will he be talking about it constantly? What are his reasons for wanting the house? Does he have an emotional attachment toward it? Is it the price because a relative is selling it to you? Why not live elsewhere?
Definitely discuss this with your fiance. There are some issues that need to be resolved before the big move.
Take care & I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-02 05:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I moved into an apartment where the previous teanent committed suicide! He blew his brains out in the room I slept in! It was a bit akward at first, but soon forgot all about it. The only reason I can see for you all not to move in, is if his step dad never offically moved out! Even then there are ways to get rid of spirits, but that is a whole other topic. If you like the home then move in! I am sure step pop won't be offended! Besides what is your deal anyways? What are the odds that no one has ever died in places you have inhabited? I am sure it has happened, the catch is you didn't know about it! So With the chances like this how do you feel now? At least your husband knows who died in the home. Try not knowing who the person was? Thats what makes it akward. -Good Luck
2006-12-02 06:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by spawanee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course. Think of all of the houses in which people have died. There's not an issue here. Your husband lived in it before. I am sure that he would not live in it again if he felt any concern about it himself. Think of all of the couples that would like to have a house, but don't yet. You should live in it if that's your only concern, and speak with your husband about it too.
2006-12-02 04:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could live in the house but if people were murdered then no. I would keep thinking something would happen like in the ghost movies where the ghost died a violent death.
2006-12-02 05:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i would because people die all the time in many places and by different causes. if you enter the house and you have a eerie feeling toward it then probably trust yr gut and get out. but if yr husband insist on living there then there probably nothing to worry about. just let time be the answer to your question and decide what you should do next...leave or move
2006-12-02 05:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You absolutely should. The death (because it was a heart attack and physical in nature verses a murder or violent act)probably wasn't caused by negetive feelings or energies so its not like you would have to worry about that.... It also sounds like (if your husband wants to) it was a comfortable and safe place to be. If you are worried about potential negative energies you could always use a smudge stick (made of sage) and clear the energies.
2006-12-02 05:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by saulsebastianstudio 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I would be a little weirded out by that, but if you don't have to pay anything for it, it would save a lot of money for you starting out, which you could save to put a big down payment down on another house someday.
2006-12-02 04:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by salukisunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not?? People die all the time, now, if there was a mass murderer living there and had placed bodies all over the house, then I would reconsider.
2006-12-02 04:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 14:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋