my ex just called me today...?

Question

Ok...my ex just called me today...but i dont wanna take his calls...coz that guy used me for physical relations and he has hurt me a lot evrytime. I lost my mom when i was 10, so, all these things hurt me a lot....he never understood me n never cared for my feelings...he made me cry all the time.
I wish i had my mother to sharethis with but i am all alone...pls help me guys...what should i do?
I am feeling very uneasy since he called me.
Pls help me.

Answer 1

so don't pick up the phone

Answer 2

don't answer the phone and he will get the message. in the mean time keep your phone on vibrate or silent mode this way the sound of the phone doesn't urk you each time it rings.

it also depends on what kind of guy this is. if you feel that he will understand if you confront him and kindly ask that he stop calling you then you could also do that.

you don't need to be with a guy that uses you and doesn't care about your feelings. you deserve a guy that will take the good (sexual relations) and take the bad (tears, emotional situations)...trust me they do exist just give it time. in the mean time maybe you should try looking for books that can help you deal with your loss. although i'm sure it has been a few years since you mom passed away you still need help to deal with situations that arise as you grow up. pick up a book at your local barnes and nobles, sit there and take a few minutes to read take notes. you're not alone in this situation everyone loses their parents eventually its just a matter of when.

Answer 3

Don't worry about it. The more you think about things the more it will come and bother you. Just think of positive things such as your friends and relatives. Don't think about your ex! Why waste your time on a useless "ex"? PLus all your working money is for YOU ONLY!!!...LOL...Just think of your friends and having a great time. Don't think about that guy. He can't help you anyway right? Just LIVE YOUR LIFE. What I mean by that is hang out with your friends, work, and just enjoy the money and friends you have. And we all know that losing a family member hurts. But think of it this way. It's NORMAL. It doesn't just happen to you. I hope this helps. Bye!

Answer 4

well im not a guy but he is no good,if he cared about you you will feel it.dont take his calls at all in fact think about changing your #.of course you r going 2 feel uneasy thats part of letting go.you have to love yourself first then some1 will come along and sweep you off your feet.dont just hang on to him like thats all you got.u can get better but first start the healing process by meeting new people.he will see how it feels when he cant minipulate you anymore!

Answer 5

well heres how it goes if you really want to get over the guy and want no part of him you should change your number so he wont have acess to it and just give your number to the pepole you wish to have it. go out with friends to keep your mind off. him. see family members often to keep you happy. you will and i mean this, you will find mr. right along the way in life .i am sure of that.as long as the iddiot doesnt have your number you will not get his calls. good luck. been there before.

Answer 6

Just don't pick up the phone, it just sounds like he is wanting to play mind games with you. If he gets to bad and you feel threatened, call the cops or have a friend stay with you for awhile.

Answer 7

you do not need that stress in you life. if the did you wrong the best thing to do is avoid him and not answer his calls. don't let anyone use you, you have to love yourself. i sometimes feel alone too but i keep going no matter how hard it is. don't waste your time on him, he missed out on a good thing and that's way he's calling you. take care of yourself because if you don't no one else will!

Answer 8

I had a guy like that. For years i let him in thinking he might really care about me but was too macho to show it. I was wrong. Steve only cares about Steve. He would call after 9pm to talk and then somewhere in the conversation he'd ask me to come over or he'd invite himself to my place. I was in love with him and he knew I wanted to have a relationship. He used that to his advantage. The only way I stopped seeing him was I had to refuse to answer and then I moved. I stayed really angry and it helped me protect myself better.
Now I have "no more Steve's" motto, and any man I am with who start acting like Steve, is not welcome in my heart. Your feelings, your body, your very soul are valuable. Why would you let a common street thief steal them from you?

He called to make sure you stay on his hook. Please think about NOT answering his calls, and NOT seeing him EVER AGAIN.
You'll be glad you did.
It's tough, but you can do it.
So sorry about the loss of your Mother. God be with you.:}

Answer 9

sorry to hear about your problem.

I never call my ex and she calls me 2 times a month, I try not to take her call and sometimes she just comes over. She hurt me too, so I know how you feel. I ignore my ex its about the only thing I know how to do.

Answer 10

dont let him get you...i also was used for sex by my ex husband and you know what its the worst feeling ever...you need to put your foot down if you dont want him to use you in any way DONT let him get near you at all...if he calls say you are busy if he asks with what or what you are doing...remember you dont have to tell him or give him a reason or excuse just say i got to go bye...and thats it...dont make it harder...if he sees that you are giving in he wont stop till you fall...

Answer 11

first i think you shouldnt answer his calls anymo becuase an ex is an ex NO EXCUSES and you should try expressin yours feelings on paper or confide in a good friend......and find a guy who is not just intreasted in yur body but you as a whole