ok so theres this one girl who likes me, but i dont like her, so i turned her down. but she still likes me even though she knows 100% that i dont like her. currently, i like this other girl, who happens to like me too. shes not yet my gf, but its close. so when the time comes that this new girl is my gf, what should i do about the 1st girl who likes me? what should i tell her?how would she react?
2006-12-02 03:54:18 · 26 answers · asked by Lonez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you made it clear to her and you aren't sending mixed signals, you've done what you can do. Just ignore the rest. She can't help being attracted to you--someday you'll be attracted to someone who doesn't like you back, so treat her the way you'd want to be treated.
2006-12-02 03:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think its rather cut and dry, you should simply continue to tell this girl that you don't like her in that romantic kind of way and that you just want to be friends, that is of course if you even want to be friends. If not just simply stay the course with your new future gf and once you have a gf the girl may get the hint that she's not the one for you.
2006-12-02 11:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by NeverStopQuestioning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like that you are concerned about how to deal with the girl you don't care for. I wish more people felt that way and didn't just give folks the brush off.
As for the girl you aren't interested in, since you turned her down and apparently (or hopefully) don't show interest toward her, your job is done there. She won't like it when you start dating someone else, but it's not like you lead her on...you have already let her know you aren't interested by having rejected her (hopefully you did it as nicely as possible).
You have no further obligation toward the girl you don't like. If she approaches you after you start dating the girl you do like, just tell her you appreciated her interest, but as you told her before, you just didn't reciprocate it...and you wish her luck in the future in meeting someone who will be a good match for her.
2006-12-02 12:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have let her down easy. There is nothing more you can do, if she is not your type she is not your type and you should be with the girl that you choose. Its a sad but true fact that people tend to like others that won't return their feelings. Be kind to her there is no need to be mean and just do what you feel is right.
2006-12-02 11:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just in the same pickle last week. It sucks doesn't it? Well here's the scoop: It wouldn't be right for you to betray your heart. You need to be true to your feelings, and if you're really close to dating the girl you like, so be it. But you need to TALK to the first girl. Say things like 'I can't understand what you see in me' or 'Look, I know you like me. But you're like a great friend. I don't know if I know you well enough to take this further. Give me time to get to know you.'
2006-12-02 11:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by welcome2bohemia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invite her for a coffee and try to make her understand but dont try to do anything stupid that can hurt her like try to show off with that second gurl infront of her cause it will hurt her. Just try to explains n if she still doesnt understand then go for the one u like. Am sure the first one will get over it soon.
2006-12-02 12:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never burn a Bridge. The relationship you want may not work out. Maybe someday you could have feelings for the first girl & she may be the right one. Just be nice. Just be friends. Remember, MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!
2006-12-02 11:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Brightsides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Tell her. Let her know that you are seeing someone and you are flattered by her attention, but your relationship with this girl is important to you. You don't want to be mean to her, but if she continues with any unwanted advances you will be.
Honesty is the best policy.
2006-12-02 11:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what i would do is tell her the truth when the time comes k or just go with the other girl and then she won't like you no more because you betraded her no don't do that thats cold k just try something but don't hurt her felling hey if you'll to chat to someone come and chat with muaaa....
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2006-12-02 12:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth or just do the 1st one and ask out the 2nd one!
2006-12-02 11:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋