I have been on here the last couple of days posting everything that is going on with me and my ex. Well last night was the last straw. She said she would call and I figured she would because tonight is my companies X-mas party... well she didnt. I mean I just believed that she would. I know she is kinda seeing somebody else(says it is just a friend) but I thought our love was stronger than what it is. I put more on it than she did... and now I am sitting here hurt feeling like a fool. And she is out and about with her friend enjoying life without me. How can it be so easy for her to move on... well I guess that doesnt matter, cause she has. After living together for 2 1/2 years it is just over... no trying to work it out... no her calling me telling me she misses me... nothing. And a couple days ago she was on the phone saying she doesnt thikn it is over between us... gosh am I the fool. How do I fel better and move on.. without thinking there is a chance?
2006-12-02 03:51:42 · 9 answers · asked by lost_93710 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is there a question in all this self-indulgent pity party whining? No wonder she dumped your sorry a*s.
2006-12-02 03:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe shes trying to find ways to move on in her life...and this new guy no matter how good he sounds like there will still be times where she misses you and thinks about the past because the time she spends with her new friend is nothing compared to the years of life together....if you get a phone call or not that doesnt mean she doesnt miss you maybe she misses you so much she would probably break down when she does call .. if you say what you guys had was strong then tell her maybe she just needs confirmation that you still love her...hurry before this new freind sweeps her off her feet...i hope i helped :)
2006-12-02 12:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by prettyingreen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step one: You have to take control. Don't let her determine that the relationship is over for you, you have decide it is over for you. As long as you feel she is the one with the power, you'll be helpless to make a clean break and move on. You have to decide that for better or for worse, it is over.
Step two: You aren't going to feel better right away. That will take time, even once you decide that you don't want the relationship anymore. You were with her for a long time, you shared many things together, you have to grieve for the loss of this. Seriously, it is a painful thing that can only be resolved through time. So take your time, try to enjoy the little things in life, and try to remember how great you are all by yourself.
I'm sorry for your loss, hope things get better!
2006-12-02 12:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her whats up. It looks like you are pretty confused and if you dont know for sure that its over the only person you can really ask is her. She will give you the answer. If she is confused also when you ask her the question then tell her what she is doing and let her know she needs to tell you so that you can either move on or stay around for her.
2006-12-02 11:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN SHE SEE THAT YOU HAVE MOVED ON, SHE WILL START TO TAKE NOTICE. STOP SITTING AROUND TAKE A FRIEND TO THE MOVIE. GO OUT IN PUBLIC WITH ANOTHER FEMALE FRIEND. LET HER NO UP FRONT YOU STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOUR EX. AND YOU ARE TRYING TO SEE IF YOU CAN GO FORWARD AND YOU CAN NOT MAKE AN COMMITMENT UNTIL YOU KNOW YOU HAVE. THIS WAY WHEN YOUR EX. COME RUNNING BACK TO YOU, IF YOU WISH TO TAKE THAT CHEATING PERSON BACK,IN WHICH SHE IS GOING TO DO IT AGAIN BECAUSE IT IS IN HER BLOOD TO CHEAT ON YOU,TRUST ME. ANY-HOOP! YOU WOULD HAVE ALREADY EXPLAIN YOUR STAND AS SOME OF YOU GUYS SAY. DON'T FORGET WHATEVER IN A PERSON TO MAKE THEM CHEAT, WILL ALWAYS BE IN THAT PERSON.
2006-12-02 12:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself something to do or someone to go out with. Dont press on the past because it just hurts too much. You need to realize she did move on and you should do the same. There is no need to sulk. Just pick up and have your own fun with someone who you find intresting.
2006-12-02 11:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy & you, too will be able to move on. Maybe she will come around once she knows you are moving on & doing so well without her. Don't let her know your heart is broken. She needs to think you can be happy without her, in order for her to "miss" you.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-02 11:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be giving her more than your saying, or she wouldn't beable to keep you dangleing on a string.
STOP calling her. Stop feeling sorry for loseing a loser! Get on with your life. Like they say..............there are more fish in the sea
2006-12-02 11:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i'm in the same boat and i don;t even know what to tell you man i'm just at a total loss. i thought we had something really special but i guess she just couldn't take it anymore.
2006-12-02 11:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋