My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We are completely sure that we love each other very much. We met in high school when we were both freshman, now we are in college with a bright future. We've been planning to get married but We are students with part time jobs and we can't afford a fancy wedding!! Will i regret marrying him in a court house, or in the beach or anywhere by ourselves..no family? Has anyone ever married someone in that conditions?....help..
2006-12-02 03:44:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you everybody I really appreciate your answers and sharing your experiences with me. You gave me hope and good ideas!!! I hope I will be as happy as you all...sorry I can't make up my mind about the best answer...I'll put it to vote. Love :)
2006-12-02 14:13:16 · update #1
No, get married and later have a big party or a great honeymoon. Too many people put themselves in serious debt throwing a big wedding they can't afford. It's ONE day for cryin' out loud, it's not worth going in debt for the next 15 years to finance.
2006-12-02 03:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine got married over the summer for $100. They had a small guest list (less than 50), she wore a white dress from a department store and he wore a suit he already owned. She had a small bouquet, and a lot of the other flowers were planted in the spring to be used in the wedding specifically. For reception food, it was literally pot luck. Everyone was asked to bring a dish and the day overflowed with love.
That's just an idea in case you feel funny about having a wedding at a court house. It sounds to me like the only thing you will regret is not marrying each other ASAP, so go for it -- anyway you get married will be a happy ending.
2006-12-02 20:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a few options here. Judging by the fact that you're asking people on yahoo if you'll regret not having your family there, that probably means you will. ;)
You could have a ceremony and a big reception later (although that may be 2-4yrs down the road for you.)
You could have a ceremony, and small reception with just punch and cake, then tell everyone you're going to a bar/resturaunt afterward if they want to join you. Then you can have the party without paying for everyone else.
You could put together a small wedding and reception yourself and ask family to help out. Have the wedding in someone's yard (no rental fee) and ask everyone to bring a dish (no caterer) and supply the drinks. let the bm buy thier own dresses, and have the gm and groom in kahki's and the same color dress shirt. I have done a backyard wedding for a few people, and they all ranged from $500 to $2000 for everything. Depending on how much you can do yourself.
Or you can just wait until you can save the money you need to have the wedding you really want.
2006-12-02 12:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always just have the ceremony quietly and then have a large reception. Another suggestion is talk to your parents. Quite a few parents I've met have wanted to help pay for weddings especially when they knew one wouldn't happen if they didn't pitch in. And if all else fails...just wait. I know that sounds mean but I waited a year to be proposed to (we'd been together for 4 when he started asking what I liked in rings), engaged a year, and probably won't be married for another 3 years, 2 at the earliest. Sometimes good things come to those who wait.
2006-12-02 15:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, I would wait a year or two....just from experience. NOT that you're not meant for each other or that you'll find someone else. But you'll be surprised at how much you'll grow in the next few years...mentally. If it's meant to be now, it will still be meant to be thern. I don't think that if/when y'all do get married that you'll regret it being in a courthouse or wherever because you should be marrying for love, not for show. You should want to get married just to BE married. It shouldn't matter how you do it. But I also recommend that you be in agreement with the ones who love you about the decision because that's what they're there for...to LOVE and guide you. They only have your best interest in mind. Best of luck!
2006-12-02 12:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by atm4987 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wore a red shirt and black pants to my wedding. My sweetie wore khaki pants and a long sleeve black t-shirt. We were married at the home of a "marriage celebrant", formally known as a justice of the peace. The only other people there were my daughter and my cousin.
We've been married for almost six years. I love him even more than I did when I married him, and have not regretted our marriage ceremony for one second. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Congratulations to you, and best wishes for a long and happy marriage.
PS -- I had only known him for seven weeks when we got married. We must have been crazy, but it has worked.
2006-12-02 19:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kathryn™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had no money as well. My first wedding band was a small plain gold ring from wal-mart. No engagement ring. I had just gotten back my tax refund and we eloped to Vegas for 2 nights and stayed in the cheapest hotel we could find that was still Vegas like (not a super 8). Cost $1000 total. (that included everything: plane, hotel, marriage license, Justice of the peace, food, and cab fair) Plus we made a little memory, not just walking down to the local court house. 6 months later we went to Florida for our honeymoon. (another $1000 dollars)
It doesn't really take much to get married. The huge weddings really are not necessary. What is important is you two, and your love and commitment to each other.
Link to US marriage laws. It also gives amounts on fees you may encounter. Good Luck and Congratulations.
2006-12-02 14:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
so um, let me get this straight, you claim to love each other yet you worry you'll regret eloping or having a small simple wedding alone? woman, please! what's more important to you, a good marriage or a fancy wedding? maybe you should finish college first? you seem a little immature to be getting married if something this trivial bothers you! no offense! just saying! too bad you can't put the bite on your parents. normally the parents spring for the wedding, traditionally the bride's parents. but now it's accepted that both bride and groom's parents pitch in 50%. at any rate, the wedding can wait. you can just sign the papers now, and invite a few of your closes friends and family to your house to celebrate, or out to a restaurant or something. then when you're both rich and famous you can have that fancy wedding you just can't live w/o. i can't believe you'd worry about regreting the wedding. i'd worry about regretting the marriage! grow up! that said, congratulations! did the guy even buy you a ring? i suggest hawking the ring to pay for the wedding! heh. good luck.
2006-12-02 11:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The most important thing you want is to get married, so it shouldn't matter if it's in a court house, if you tell your parents I'm sure they are going to want to help out. Getting married isn't the amount of money you spend, it's making a commitment to one another,vowing to love and honor one another, Good Luck, Congratulations.Married in a court house, have been married 18yrs.
2006-12-02 12:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by LucyBoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much more school do you have? Are you able to support yourselves now or are you parents helping? Being poor is not the issue; it's being able to take care of yourselves. Can you? And what happens if you get pregnant or he gets sick and can't work? Can either of you alone support the family?
Having a smaller intimate wedding can be as special as any lavish ceremony. But it should be one that you both want.
If you decide to go ahead with the weddng, type into your search engine your city, state & wedding officiant. You should have your choice of a few. They will help give you a more intimate ceremony than a judge.
2006-12-02 11:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the rush?? Y can't you wait until you can afford the Wedding of your dreams? You still have yet to graduate from college and start your careers. You owe it to yourselves to experience that part of life before you make a tremendous committment and get married. Wait you have a lifetime together and your too young in my opinion to get married. 30 is perfect to make such a huge change in your relationship, trust me, I am talking from experience. Did you ever travel anywhere? There is so much to do before you get married don't rush into it. Love will still be there if its true!!!!
2006-12-02 11:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋