My boyfriend's brother and his girlfriend are getting married ( actually they got married in a courthouse already, but are having a ceremony at the parent's house). My question is, if I don't receive an invitation, should I go to the ceremony? I went with the bride for gown shopping and my boyfriend thinks its ridiculous that I not go, because everyone assumes I'm invited through informal conversations with the couple and my boyfriend's parents.
2006-12-02 03:29:32 · 14 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Absolutely. You should be considered family, going by the fact that its your guy's brother and that you went dress shopping. If your bf is going, so should you. Don't worry so much.
You could always jokingly ask the bride to not forget to invite you. Jokingly.
2006-12-02 03:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What an odd situation.
You _do_ need to have it clarified, though; from an etiquette standpoint, and my experience, you're not invited.
The best way to go about it might be to ask the parents to ask the bride and groom -- "'Joanna' mentioned she hasn't received an invitation, and was wondering if..." Don't let them just assume, either.
There's nothing rude about not showing up at an event to which you were not invited, but there're a lot of problems with showing up when you weren't formally invited.
I have never heard of word-of-mouth invitations for a wedding. I'm sure it's done, especially for very informal ones, but. Normally, people close are the first ones the couple wants to get invitations to.
I can't imagine anybody looking at gowns with somebody not invited, but assuming anything is still probably a bad idea. Did your boyfriend get an invitation; did it include you in any fashion? If he got one with no 'and 'Joanna',' -- worry! Again, asking the parents to ask is probably the easiest way to go.
Re. all the 'just go' answers -- I disagree. For most weddings, a fairly precise guest list is very important. It's _not_ assumed that people will bring dates; that'd make quite a mess -- some have dates, some don't; there'd be no way to figure out how many chairs, how much food, etc, was required.
2006-12-02 11:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did your boyfriend get an invitation? Did it say "And Guest"?
If not, I'd find out if you are actually invited rather than just showing up.
2006-12-02 20:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by lillielil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go ask the couple if you are cordially invited,or if you should wait for an ivitation by mail.be polite in asking,and not be shy or rude.
2006-12-02 11:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by lilkidmagnet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i assume your boyfriend is invited since it's his brother....i'm sure they expect him to bring a guest.....it really sounds like your going is assumed by everyone.....i would go......but if you're still uncomfortable it sounds like you're close enough to the bride to say"i just wanted to make sure you want me there since i didn't get a formal invite"
2006-12-02 11:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should go. It is assumed. People who are that close do not need formal invitations.
2006-12-02 11:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Certainly you should go!
Why not?
Why let the formality of getting an invitation stop you from showing your love and support for your friends at this time of their happiness???????
2006-12-02 11:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are 100% certain, you could alwways ask for a formal invitation as a momento.
2006-12-02 11:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you get an invitation.. go. have a great time.
if you don't get one.. go and act up a storm.. get drunk.. dress up like a clown.. spike the punch.. stick something gross inside the cakes....
steal alot of the dishwares and glasses...
and take no prisoners.
if anyone calls the cops.. run.. or take a prisoner or two.
2006-12-02 11:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
they did not invite you because you already would be a guest of your boyfriend
2006-12-02 11:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋