I have known who he was for a long time. We were friends at kindergarten, but it isn´t until know, 11 years later that i´ve talked to him again. And for a couple months ago, I started to like him. We don´t hang out or anything (even though that is what im hoping for). He says hi when we are walking past eachother in the hallway at school. And we talk online and if we meet at the bus. What should I do? I don´t think he know but he is kind og flirty on messenger somtimes. Should I tell him and/or ask him out?
2006-12-02 03:23:53 · 5 answers · asked by Malla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were probably around 5 in kindergarden, so your both about 16 now.
The fact that you talk with him on the bus and online, means your at least getting to be friends, but since you don't hang out together it is very difficult to tell if the guy likes you.
If you really want to get things moving toward a dating situation then you'll have to do a little maneuvering and it'll take some time. Invite him to come along with you and a bunch of friends to see a movie, go to a birthday party, play video games, or just hang out at the mall. Any friendly activity with friends around, so that there's no appearance or pressure of trying to date him. At this stage you need to get to know him a bit more in person and see how he acts to find out if you really like him and that he really might be interested in you. Hang out with him in groups and do this for awhile until you get to know each other better. If he is interested in you he may start asking you out on dates without you having to convince him.
A bit of further advice, there is a lot of emphasis on sex when it comes to "officially" dating someone. The purpose of entering a relationship is to get to the know the person well enough to eventually have sex, raise a family, and live life together.
For guys we work at relationships to get sex, while the women work at sex to get a relationship. Granted in the case of teen males the hunt for sex is a bit stronger, but it never changes as guys get older.
So when you decide to date this guy go into it knowing that your going to be working on getting to more intimate levels beyond simple friendships.
I'm not saying you should be having sex at 16, I'm just saying that guys expect the relationship to progress with hand-holding, kissing, snuggling, talking about various sexual subjects, then some fondling though clothes (I'd advise not going beyond this until your older), then some nudity, then eventually some occational sex (progressing from manual, to oral, to vaginal), and then finally sex on a regular basis with new experimentation.
If you don't feel ready to work on such a close relationship, I'd advise you just stay friends, hang out in groups, and don't start "actual" dating until you think you'll be comfortable getting physical (not necessarily sexual) with him.
2006-12-02 04:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rukh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ask him out as a friend, u know act as if u did not like him just to see what he is gonna do. ask him once, twice and a third time just to make sure he wants to, then u drop the bomb about u liking him.
2006-12-02 11:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out. And be honest with him and your feelings.
2006-12-02 11:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead ask him out!
2006-12-02 11:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by LORI M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comeon Girl he better Ask u first ...Wait abit ;)
2006-12-02 11:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋