sister in law left her hub, to be w/another man. ??? mad?

Question

I am not an over the top religious woman, but I do believe in marriage and the commitment before God, and ethics in general.

Anyhow, my sister in law who I love dearly, lacks ambition in life, and wants free ride, she lives off other people and if it isnt enough of her mooching . She leaves her husband for another man. Which screams in my mind how any God form man or woman could cause so much termoile in a family and in a home is beyond my state of thinking.

I really an not thrilled with her judgment period., I cant even think how on earth I assosciate with ehr at this point. I am so against all her decisions.
To me she is a kind hearted friend, we laugh togheter and share together. But everything in me does not like what she has done, do I disconnect her from my life, and tell her why?
this is really unsettling.

my husband, her brother, is so angry with her life decisions, but he loves her too much to say anything.
what would u do?

my husband had to take her to the airport , at 5/30 this morning, last minute notice, and go to work at 8, not fair.
she has no job ha nop respect, takes and borrows our money all the time, I cant take it anymore, and she'll be back for xmas, to collect her gifts, LOSER!

my husband had to take her to the airport , at 5/30 this morning, last minute notice, and go to work at 8, not fair.
she has no job ha nop respect, takes and borrows our money all the time, I cant take it anymore, and she'll be back for xmas, to collect her gifts, LOSER!

Answer 1

if she is looking for a free ride and left your family let the dum ss go

Answer 2

If she is a person that you consider a friend a one that you love then the answer in my opinion is easy. We should always be honest with the people we love and care about. While you do not have to be rude you can be upfront. And think also while this is against you and your husband. She was wrong! Maybe just maybe she was unhappy and moved forward. Maybe no matter what is in her life she will be unhappy because she is unhappy from within. It is not your right to wrong her decision this is her life. It is your right and obligation to yourself to be honest with her.

Answer 3

Something that I have heard that helps me through things like this is to... hate the sin, love the sinner.
I believe that is what God does and He has the grace to forgive... so to be Christ-like I try real hard to forgive the sinner also.
It is perfectly OK to be angry with her for causing so much turmoil, just don't let it change who you are by holding onto the resentment.
May God bless you and your whole family!

Answer 4

Your first loyalty is to your brother. He is your family and always will be. It sounds like this woman is quite the flake and made a bad, selfish decision that had devastated your brother and your family. You have every right to stop talking to her. That is what I would do. When you are ready to forgive her, do. You need to be there for your brother, who is probably in need of support.

Answer 5

Your husband/ her brother has a right to his feelings, and so do you....there is nothing wrong with having ethics....if she is out for a free ride..be sure it is not on your back....yes, tell her why you need to step away from her,that you will pray for her...God bless

Answer 6

Do you REALLY know what this woman has been living with at home or are you speculating? Sometimes we tend to judge people unfairly and never give them the chance to hear their side of the story. Things are seldom what they seem.

Answer 7

To keep peace, say little. Your husband has to deal with this lady. You do the praying and leave the outcome to GOD.

Answer 8

Just let it go poeple fall out of love with each other every day.