My family has put so much negitive thoughts on me about men and love how it isnt real all they wanna do is use you for sex but i try to block it out but i notice that everytime i meet someone now im thinking that allthey want is wham bam thank you mam ... what do i need to do to stop this ? Is this ruining the outlook on life for me .?
2006-12-02 03:10:52 · 8 answers · asked by I_luv_my_kids<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just need to learn to put down that wall. its kind of liek you were brainwashed in a way. Everyguy tends to try to use a girl for sex...but the girls who are moraled and respect them selves always end up with the guy for longer because they cared enough about her to wait. My brother once told me that guys like to get a peace of *** but they never like the girl cause she gave it up right away. dont have those thoughts give them a chance but if they started asking you and you say no and they leave you..oviously it wasnt meant. :) <33Best of luck girl.
2006-12-02 03:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's what some men want but not all of them. First start off by being friends. Give your firendship time to mature well before you get to the physical stage. Get to know each other. Don't go into a friendship thinking you have to be physical just to be friends because that's not true. Talk to the potential guy, if he truly respects you he will be understanding of your position. Of course, if not then you know he was a wham-bam man and you can continue looking for the one God has set aside for you. Be patient, my sista.
2006-12-02 11:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by Houston Hopeful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't it making you more cautious about the situation of having sex with guys. Which is better than just spreading them and them leaving after. You need to know that some guys will go out with you to see if they can score with you, then they will go else where. You need to realize that more good looking hunks are like that are always remember if you have to ahve sex unprotected all the guys will say you gave it to them even if it's your first time. SO if you ever decide to have sex, remember to have protection. I can tell you what most guy will say well it's doesn't feel good with one on. Or you just don't love me or trust me enough do you. They will try to make you feel guilty about it, but stick to your guns cause if they get you prgnant or give you STd it waaasn't them that gavve it to you, you gave it to them. SO remmebr it's not bad to think like that because lots of guys are justing doing it to have sex with you then they are gone. SO be smart and take care.
2006-12-02 11:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think it is, not every guy is like that! they all have perverted thoughts and think about sex about 7 times more than a girl in one day but they don't all show that side 24/7 some are very sweet and sensitive, it takes a lot of searching and a couple of heart breaks but you will eventually find the right one if you don't judge them prematurly...Give some of them a chance, and a way to save some heart ache if you do want to find a guy is make friends with them first, then see if they are worth dating...
2006-12-02 11:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by dadsprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry.
That's just negative feedback from whatever bad experiences your family had while being in relationships that didn't work out.
It's okay to be a bit wary of people's intentions at first. Actually, this will give you the foresight and strength to be patient and allow your relationships to develop before falling into just a sexual thing.
2006-12-02 11:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn for yourself. That doesn't mean going out and getting hurt... Date guys, but dont be easy. Guys that just want action will leave you and move on to an easy target, a guy that wants more will enjoy the pre-sex relationship
2006-12-02 11:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tzvi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shoudl cool down and take a decision.. is he the type that would wanna sleep wit u n just forget about u??? if he is then i think its good to lett him go but... if ur not sure then give it a try... if he is goin to far stop it... remember u are alwayz in control. and make sure he understands it.
2006-12-02 11:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by OutLawZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'v known all along that the've streached the truth when it comes to boy girl stuff , stay in charge of your body and your dicissions . no boy will respect you more than you respect your self , stay young as long as you can you'l grow old fast enough
2006-12-02 11:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Zach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋