here's the problem.just 2 days before,i told my 3 month crush that i like him & he replied with a "i would have said yes,but i don't want to be in a relationship right now & i like someone else".
bear in mind that i was planning everything to the last detail & ALL my friends knew abt it(my friends are his friends too).it was supposed to be special cos mainly i thought he liked me too,by the way he behaved around me.
today,i just got to know that almost all my friends knew abt this 'other gal he likes' & they never even told me abt it.not even a hint(while all the time,i was constantly talking abt him).
i mean,i'm not a person who likes regretting,that's why i always tell a guy if i like him.but this REALLY hurt me now.i can't believe my friends knew abt this all along & never told me.
did i Really make a fool out of myself this time?
thanks.
2006-12-02 03:05:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sure that this is how many guys feel. Chalk it up to experience and remember how you feel the next time a guy you are not interested in ask you out.
I would not say you did anything wrong. It is embarassing but that how life is sometimes. And if he said he would have said yes - then apparently there was a time he thought about you and that is a nice thing. Dont worry about it. You did nothing wrong. It just wasnt the right guy at the right time. It happens all the time. AND it is better to find out then waste all your time dreaming about a guy that is not available for you.
God Bless,
Kathy
2006-12-02 03:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by c2god2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not make a fool of yourself at all. WHat happened is, now you know who your real friends are.....This is the lesson you learned from this.
You shouldn't share too much with other people who turn out to be acquaintances and not real friends...It should not be announced to everyone, like a special on a restaurant menu...
This is a personal thing that should be kept locked in your heart.. I don't mean your feelings, but the planning to tell someone..
You are not a fool, as you spoke the truth... he was honest and told you the truth... you two are okay... your so called friends are in the dog house.. tho... They didn't think enough of you or respect you enough to be honest... thus they were not true friends... You have to be careful in life and not be too open about every little detail.. as it tends to blow up in your face.
The good thing is now he knows you like him , even tho he has an interst somewhere else, you probably made him fell good inside and happy.... You are not a fool, I think you are pretty smart and I Iike the fact that you are not afraid to say how you feel... Now you are ready to recognize and have a true frienship when you find it....
YOu need another interest to occupy yourself... Is there anybody you know who could use a helping hand.??.. Tutoring, babysitting. walking their dog..church... communtiy service... This is where you will find true friendships...
2006-12-02 03:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at this way. You tried and it didn't work. So flush it and move forward. Your so called friends just showed you how much they really care about you so ignore them and make some new ones. If you let them know that this bothered you then they win and you lose. If you show them that this was just a little bump in the road to finding someone new and exciting that it interested in you, then they will probably want to be your friend again and at that point you can tell them that you really aren't interested in them anymore. You can dump them now or later on when you have new friends. Either way you win.
2006-12-02 03:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but your friends made fools of themselves in front of you. You were being truthful and forthcoming looking for support and they let you down. Don't be embarrassed. Learning that you really don't have as many friends as you think you do is essential for maturity and adulthood. Trust me when I say that in ten years everything is going to be awesome! (it will likely be sooner - just finish high school!) You will have a better idea of who your true friends are then and you will laugh at what these other losers became.
2006-12-02 03:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only a fool if you let them make you feel like one. Go on with your life and learn from your mistakes. Sometimes your "friends" can turn the tables on you and attempt (perhaps unwittingly) to make you look foolish.
Don't worry about it...One day when you graduate from college with a 4.0, one of the hottest women in your sorority, he'll be the fool...and you'll have your whole life ahead of you.
Have a great day.
2006-12-02 03:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you didnt make a fool out of yourself.Juat brush it off and he will come around when he finally figures out that he is with the wrong girl and he will be right onto you thats the way it works most of the time.
2006-12-02 03:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Michael D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have taken my advice. Never go up to a guy and tell him how you feel. Let my translate what he said for you. He said now that he knows you like him he knows you'll be there. So he is going shopping for other girls and if things don't work out he knows you are waiting in his back pocket.
2006-12-02 03:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't worry about it!
It's never a bad thing to tell someone your feelings, love isn't a game, there is no right time. You just have to take a chance and make that leap and hope that they like you back, which you did.
And remember, young "love" isn't forever, so it could happen for you later!
It will be alright.
2006-12-02 03:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by kira-love ^-^ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thing by telling him u liked him at last u know that ur friends where hiding sth from u. And hey i dont call them friends and if u care for ma advice u should pretend strong n do all ur best so that he likes u.
2006-12-02 03:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way your trhe victim here of cowardly friends... tell them to be honest with you next time, sounds like they were trying to save your feelings too, but they should look at the big picture just chill it's not your fault hold ya head high and start looking for a guy whos gonna like u back just as much as u like him :)
2006-12-02 03:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋