My fiance has an old friend that he used to be really close to but they rarely even talk anymore. Reason is because the guy is sort of a self centered prick. He is the type that talks behind peoples back and thinks hes better than everyone. I really dont want him to be invited. But I think my fiance feels badly because there are other friends from that circle that will for sure be invited. Not to be a Bi*ch but I am not sending an invitation. But how should I tell my fiance nicely that there is no way in heck this guy is getting invited?
2006-12-02 02:48:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I also think that if everyone else gets invited and we exclude him it will be a reality check for this guy.
2006-12-02 02:49:41 · update #1
I would invite him anyway, maybe he won't come...that is possible...it's the best you can hope for anyway...
you will not even notice him on that day as the day will be all about you and your man...his presence will hardly be a blip on the radar of the grand scheme of things...
Be the better woman and rise above any feelings you may have about this guy...
Your man will be hurt if he finds out about it after the fact...
Do not go against your fiance's wishes
Karma can be a Beee yotch! Careful!
2006-12-02 08:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiance at a time when you aren't under more stress than you already are. See if you can come to a happy compromise. If he insists on inviting him, then do so.
This will NOT be a reality check for this kind of guy. Not being invited to your wedding will not wield the weight you think. And he will no doubt talk about you whether he attends or not.
If he shows, just make sure that your head usher keeps an eye on him at the reception. If he starts anything....the guy can be 'ushered' out the door.
2006-12-02 11:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when people get married they should both be able to invite people from their side that they want to, even if they are not our fav people. Like u said he used to be very close to this guy and he is probably thinking back to that and wanting those friends to be part of this big event in his life. I am sure if he went through your list and if given the option he might not want a few of them invited. That is why they have the "grooms" side and the "brides" side of the church and reception. Those are the people that were or are closest in our lives. If he wants him there I would definitely invite him.
2006-12-02 10:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't just not invite a guest that's not even yours to invite. In a relationship you don't make decisions that aren't all yours to make and then inform your spouse later.
You need to talk to your fiance, and if he feels the same way and doesn't want him invited then that's fine, don't invite him, but if he wants this friend there then let him invite him.
Your fiance is going to have to be the one who tells this guy why he's not invited, and how bad would that be if his excuse were "Because my fiance told me I couldn't invite you." He's a person, you don't make his desicions for him, he does.
2006-12-02 11:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ur wedding and if he loves u as he says he does he would want ur day to be as memorable as possible with good memories not bad ones but do let him know u r not inviting his friend because he would make ur wedding day a disaster to u. And the hell what the "circle" thinks, let them marry the "prick" or if ur fiance gets mad then let him marry his friend.
2006-12-02 10:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not starting this marriage out in an equal way. He would have no right to tell you who to invite. If you start by chosing his friends for him you are going to have a very short marriage.
That being said, I would send out the invite with the wrong address and zip code ensuring it won't arrive. LOL!
2006-12-02 11:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being unfair, ok so the guy is a jerk..I'm sure you have friends that your groom to be may not like all that much but he's letting you invite them. I don't think it's fair to tell him that his friend can't come, if the guy's attitude bothers you that much talk to your guy to talk to his friend or don't talk to the guy at the reception. I think if the guy is not going to be invited it needs to be your groom to be's decision not yours. But that is my opinion
2006-12-02 13:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No "do overs" on this day.
If this guy is going to cause you tension, then X him out.
Tell fiance that you will not invite all your old boyfriends either.
2006-12-02 11:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by ump2please 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key. Discuss the pros and cons from each of you and make the decision together. Unless you think this man will be abusive it might be best to just invite him to keep the peace.
2006-12-02 18:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is ur big day. U are entitled to not invite anyone that may ruin or put a damper on your day.
2006-12-02 10:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by lswillms 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋