my ex lef me las mnth. She saying how she doesnt luv me and want to muv on. afte 2 wks of acting out we meet for diner and she sayin shes scared n wants to move on. After we kiss n cry n say bye. a day after she calls n tells me how much she missd me. So we get bac 2gether n the whole week she tells me stuff about marraige and movin in with me which was are intent be4. she goes to see her friend 4 de wk n when she coms bac the distance from before is bac. On thanksgvn after dinner she ask me if i am mor in luv then her. sayin she now wants 2 muv on. I call her friday she says she dosnt feel the same and only cam bac 2 see if she can force herself 2 luv me. I dont undrstand. y say all that stuff n not mean it. Is she confused wil she call me . or is it al ovr. should i call her 2nite. she is online should. can i tlk 2 her then. I truely luv her n miss her i want there 2 b something. i tlked 2 her freind n see dosent have any answers 4 me. should i try and talk to the friend agan? man!
2006-12-02 02:13:34 · 7 answers · asked by ken hill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She sounds confused, give her space to figure out what she wants. Don't call her, If she loves you she will come back. Just remember if she does come back make sure she is sure about her decision or you guys may be repeating the situation over and over.
2006-12-02 02:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was telling the truth when she said that she only came back to see if she can still love you (unless there are other conditions that you don't know of like her parents don't like you or whatever, but don't count on that). For now, take her word for it. I don't think it was to be mean...I think people generally want to make relationships work and want to be absolutely sure that there's no chance before they sever all ties. When my bf broke up with me, I felt lost at first. It's hard to suddenly let go of someone in your life even though you know that you're not meant to be together. Give yourself time to heal and give her space. Don't call her or you'll totally break. Spend the week self-pitying and venting out your emotions here or in a journal or with your friends but no matter what happens, DONT CONTACT HER. If you still want to try again, do it when you both don't feel desperate or clingy. A relationship is there not to fill the emptiness inside you; its to add something better to what you already have. Have something else fill your life. Another person can never do that for you. When the right time comes, you'll have much more to give to your partner. When you recover, the empowerment that you get out of it will be such a rush you'll enjoy being single(even for a time)!
I suggest watching My Best Friends Wedding(Julia Roberts) or The Break Up(Jennifer Aniston) to keep you occupied. They're therapeutic for cases like yours too..
2006-12-02 10:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Tsina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl has some serious issues perhaps she is bi polar or just crazy she is certainly insensative and self centered. Please you sound like a nice guy Spare yourself some heartache and make some nice girl out there very happy by dumping this yo-yo ride and finding you someone to love you back the way you love them This girl is NOT the one for you Good Luck
2006-12-02 10:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take her back. If she calls you in 6 months maybe you can think about it, but not every 2 days.
2006-12-02 10:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on buddy. It's clear that SHE wants to move on too. It's only past memories that is making it hard for her to leave.
2006-12-02 10:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her
2006-12-02 10:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. Let it go.
2006-12-02 10:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋