I'm so ugly and can't take it anymore?

Question

I really like this girl who's studying dentistry with me but I'm ugly so I can't talk to her,anyways people here told me to workout and change my hairstyle so I did(I thought it was good) but she and her friends were like laughing and making fun,I just felt so stupid and ugly,I don't want people to think that I think that I'm good-looking,I want them to know that I know that I'm ugly but trying to improve my look or just look acceptable,now I don't use gel or try different hairstyles because of this
I feel that I'm hopeless

Answer 1

If she was laughing at you for you working out and trying to improve yourself, then she's a ***** and you should try other girls. A little sprucing is good, but its inner confidence and love for the self that really keep a girl.

Answer 2

Lucky for you, you are a MAN and not a woman. Looks only matter for women. For men, the only thing that matters is behavior. You don't know that yet. You are ignorant. The cure for that is experience. Trying out the correct behaviors and seeing the dramatic difference in the way people respond. Further, the idea in your head that you are "ugly" and because of that, you can't talk to that girl is a bit of programming society has put into your head to stop you from approaching her. It isn't real. Nor is it true. It's just an excuse. If you looked like Brad Pitt, you STILL wouldn't approach her, only your mind would make up a different, equally plausible sounding excuse. Here is the kicker. You have the same ability with that woman whether you look like you do now or if you look like Brad Pitt. It's irrelevant. Looks are not relevant for men.

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Ignore the cheesy advertising schtick. These guys are the real deal and that's just marketing crap. Get the CD's and listen to them. Do what they say to do. Follow the missions they give you. You will immediately see what it is I'm talking about. There will come a time, probably sooner rather than later, when walking up to that girl you like will be trivial. Walking off with her will be what you come to expect in an outcome.

Answer 3

Oh my... telling yourself you ugly and hopeless is not helping the situation at all first of all you need to work on your self esteem and confidante's.So what if people laugh at you as long as you are happy with the way you look to hell with rest! And as for that girl trying to impress her might not be the smart thing to do, just ignore her there are many other women out there and the right one will come along one day and accept you for who you are.Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder my friend. Hit me up if you want to talk. keep your head and never let anyone make you feel any less attractive than they are.

Answer 4

YOU are not the ugly one. The ones laughing at you are the ugly ones!! As hard as it is you have to learn to love yourself as you are. You can't be what they want you to be and be true to yourself. They are extremely shallow people. One of the best things I was told is:
I think, therefore, I am.
If you think you're ugly, you'll do what ugly people do and make yourself ugly. You may think you're ugly on the outside but I bet you're beautiful on the inside. Have a good heart and mind and don't worry about looks. Usually, the "beautiful" people are the ones that age very badly and us "uglies" usually are the better looking as we age. I know I've seen it happen. Just know that someday the reverse will happen because their ugliness will show up eventually. Do positive affirmations every day tell yourself how beautiful you are and one day the swan will appear. Good luck!

Answer 5

Are you kidding me? Look, first off, this girl apparently isn't worth squat to anyone. If she lacks that much compassion for another human that she would humiliate you or get a laugh at you expense. You have to ask yourself, is this really someone you want to impress? Everyone has someone out there. If You liked the way You looked when you did yourself up, then that's all that matters. Build some self-esteem and security within you before you go looking for someone to enjoy time with. Because in the end, you are all you have!

Answer 6

One thing I've learned in life is that attractiveness is often totally subjective. There are a few people in the world who look like models (i.e. the prevalent consensus in social trends on what's beautiful), but most people have their flaws and striking attributes, and it's all a matter of preference. A set of features that turns one girl on can do nothing for another girl and vice-versa.

Furthermore, attraction really has as much to do with how someone makes you feel as it does with what they look like. Confidence, intelligence, compassion, and a sense of humor are worth more than nice eyes or perfect teeth.

Finally, we're drawn to people in part by how well they present themselves. A well-dressed man who's in good physical shape and is walking down the street with grace and confidence is going to turn a few heads, even if his face doesn't look like it belongs on the cover of GQ.

So, stop beating up one yourself, keep working out, and keep telling yourself you're attractive. You'll start to believe it.

Answer 7

Ugh. What a *toot*.
Please don't waste your time on such a snobbish girl. Even if she will never be interested in you, that does not give her any excuse to treat you that way. She should at least put you down gently that no matter how hard you do, she's not into you but she should also add that you trying so hard so that she'll like you is flattering. I mean, I would be flattered if someone tried so hard to get to me. Its really sweet. This is gonna sound like a cliche or at least pathetic, but somewhere out there is gonna see through the exterior to your interior and see someone truly gorgeous. And this is the frigging truth :)
Good luck!

Answer 8

OH come on....you can't look that bad. Besides its not really looks that matter. You have to have self-confidence and like yourself then others pick up on that. There are a lot of not good looking people out there, but remember this....everyone is pretty or handsome to someone, everyone is unattractive to someone regardless how you look! For example remember this singer?http://personal.cfw.com/~agtotten/clintb1x.jpg http://top2bottom.net/watermarked/Clint%20Black-web.jpg
Well anyway the only difference between him and the real world is they can airbrush his pictures. He is NOT hot. But people find him attractive anyway because of the way he acts with confidence. If she laughed at you then she is a cold hearted person who may need a second look in the mirror. Dude don't ride yourself like that cheer up. The main problem here is depression perhaps you should look in to it. The faster you feel better about yourself the faster life with get better!

Answer 9

I don't think you'd want to date a girl who is insensitive like her. I feel bad that you are surrounded by superficial people who puts more emphasis on looks rather than in character. Confidence makes a good-looking man (not too much though). So you should be more concerned in improving your self-esteem rather than you looks. Don't bother with girls like her. Move on.

On a pratical note, if you still think you're "ugly" (which I am sure you are not) you should find a friend YOU TRUST, who can help you with your appearance. It helps if that friend is honest as well as sincere in helping you out - so you won't have to deal with changing "looks" alone.

Answer 10

You need to be a little more happy about yourself and that girl is really stupid to be ignoring a man that's as good as you. Try to workout, as you said, try different hairstyles that go with you and just be confident, and ignore her for a period of time. Looks are not all-that important to girls you know.

Answer 11

If she's laughing at you with her friends she's immature and not worth your time.

She's probably insecure or conceited and you don't want either of those in a girl.

I say, just do whatever you think you should to look good...it's about feeling good about yourself, maybe try a new style that makes you feel hot, or get glasses or colour contacts because those can make a huge difference!