Whats ok and whats not?

Question

Ive been with my girl bout a month now and yesterday she said to me that her friend asked her to go to a house party next week. I automatically assumed she wanted me to go but she said that her friend just wanted her to go. It kinda got to me coz I know it seems obvious and all that she'll go to stuff like parties without me but still i just didnt think about it til now. Im not crazy about the idea coz shes beautiful and i know guys will be trying to chat her up at this party. I trust her completely, but it still bothers me that other guys will be trying it on with my girl. So is this just one of those things ive got to get used to? I would never try tell her she cant do this or that, i know shes gotta do her own thing. But in general whats ok and whats not in terms of your girlfriend/boyfriend going places or doing things with their friends? What would be considered disrespectful to the one you love? Thanks

Answer 1

i have had the same problems in my relationship pal i know your pain. the best thing to do is let them go. do not pester how her or question her that will push her away and she will start to resent you. as someone has said already if she comes home to you that means something.
i know its hard but relax pal gud luck!

Answer 2

First I would like to say good job for understanding that you do trust her and it's the other sex that you don't completely trust.

Since that's clear, you are with her because you choose to and if you didn't believe that she had good judgment and Morales you wouldn't invested your feelings into the relationship. As far as whats OK and disrespectful in terms of doing things without your partner. You have to discuss with your g/f because ever body have different views on what they think is disrespectful or not. You have to tell her what would makes you feel uncomfortable and she should do the same just in case the situation switches. But remember to bring it up not in a form of an argument and don't seem aggressive or to overbearing. Wait until the right time like when you are having a general conversation with each other. (not before she goes out) that can be interpreted incorrectly and spark and argument. If she is an good G/F, which she sounds to be, she will understand and willingly have this conversation with you. Just remember to keep trust and honestly in your relationship and it should last. Never hide the way you feel about any situation. Just remember its not what you say but how you say it.

Good Luck

Answer 3

There are a lot of answers here n most of them sum it all up.

Unfortunately u really can't stop her from chillin wiv her friends. If u love and trust her 100% then u don't need to worry. If u become paranoid about it u run the risk of losing her.

But next time if she dresses extra-hot when going out without you, give her a nice hug and speak to her about it - dont use the wrong tone of voice or else she will think u dont trust her. Just admit to her that u are a bit jealous of how other guys will be looking at you. I swear she will feel so happy that u care for her so much! After that if she has any decency she will tone things down a little.

Answer 4

Awwwwwwwwww how cute are you. But if you want some honest advice from the old school. There is no what's OK or whats not OK for boyfriend and girlfriend. You and her are not married and she doesn't owe you anything, and you don't owe her anything. It doesn't matter weather she is at a party or at the mall. Guys are gonna try and talk to her that you can't stop. Don't get so wrapped up in something like this, it is obvious that she is not thinking on those lines, Now if you were married if would be a different story, she would need to ask your permission, to do certain things, Sweetie I know it may hurt but you have to learn not to get so attached to someone is not married to you, or even about to be married to you.

Answer 5

If you really 100% trust her completely, then you should not even let the thought of other guys looking at her cross your mind. Now what is okay and whats not in gf/bf terms is really up to each of you. Depending on each of your wants and needs from as well as for one another. Is she disrespectiong you? Well do you think she is. Would she be cool and laid back if she was wearing your shoes. Different people view respect and disrespect differently. Yours and her ideas might not be the same. Try to talk with her if you feel disrespected, and see if she is willing to wear your shoes without being angry. I wish I could help more!!!!!!! Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I think the best move right now is just to trust her, get over the feelings of jealousy and let her go to the party. If you hear things about it afterwards that aren't good talk to her about it. It's ok for her to still do things with her friends with out you and more healthy for the relationship. And the same goes for you, try to hang out with some of your friends when the two of you don't have plans.

Answer 7

~A month isn't very long. You haven't set up rules or boundaries yet. I don't see anything wrong with her going to a house party with girlfriend. If it were a guy, it would be different.
Jealousy can kill a relationship. You would like to go out with the boys sometimes, wouldn't you? You will have to trust her and accept that other men will be looking at her and maybe even hitting on her. If she cheats on you, then it wasn't meant to be anyhow.~

Answer 8

to be honest with you bro, i dont even know. I'm a jealous man, honestly, i'm so worried about someone else picking up my girl, i guess its just the insecure part of me. anyways man... I say let her go to the party and do her own thing, if you trust her that something aint gonna go down, than theres no worries. Yeah guys might be trying to hook up with her. But, that can happen anywhere.. not just the party.

Trust her let her go, see how **** goes down, my girl never cheated on me. I dont know that for sure, but than again... would you ever know?

Answer 9

let her go. If you trust her then let her. As long as you know shell be true there shouldnt be limits on what she does unless its someting like snogging another guy. And if she loves you sahell be true to you and there shouldnt be a problem. Main ingredient here, trust

Answer 10

do u think she is the kind of girl who would do u wrong? it's depend on how strong ur relationship is. well in this case, i guess u just gonna have to trust her. just like if it was u i think she would have had her suspicious too, but i bet she would be in the same position.