I am 13 yearrs ooldd.. and i haven't got a boyfriend and everyone else in my year does.. when we go out i always get left out coz theyh all wit their boyss and i want one.. people keep asking me out but my parents dont allow me.. but i really want one for support.. and for my social environment.. HELLPP!
2006-12-02 01:24:19 · 9 answers · asked by Gabby G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm guessing that you come from a religious family and that your not allowed to date until your 15. I was interested in this girl during my freshman year in high school, we were both 14, but she wasn't allow to date until she was 15. She was still allowed to hangout with guys, guys were still allowed to hang out at her house, but everything had to stay on the "friends" level.
You could always bring a "wingman", a girl from the same church, that is in the same situation and can't officially date either. This way you have someone to talk to and hang out with when people in the group starts doing their "couple thing" and you won't feel so lonely because there's some else there that's going through the same thing.
Unless your parents are warped super-religious types there shouldn't be a rule against hanging out with a boy and being friends when your part of a group. If finding another girl to be your "wingman" isn't an option than you can still hangout with a guy. You have to always be in a group (at least 2 others besides you and the guy), no hugging, hand-holding, kissing, sex, or any other forms of physical contact because your not allowed to date, but your still allowed to be friends. The next time a guy ask you out tell him your not allowed to date, but that you can still hangout and do stuff together if your with other friends. You may not be officially dating, but you can get to know each other without the pressure of trying to be physical.
In any case, whether you fly solo, fly with a wingman, or "group date" when with your friends, you should be taking lots of mental notes about relationships. Its what I do when I'm single. I pay attention to the interactions of other couples and make a mental note on how I would handle a similar situation, that way I can try to learn from their mistakes. When I do start dating again I have a better chance of avoiding problems because I've already seen the signs in other relationships. You should be doing the same, that way when turn 15 and are old enough to date you'll have a better understanding of relationships than the other girls when they started. All the girls you know that are already dating are "flying blind" and are having to learn things the hard way. You may be behind right now in the dating scene, but if your smart and study the relationships around you, your going to do much better in the dating scene than they did.
Dating is supposed to be about learning new things about the other person. Techically, becoming friends with someone is the same thing (getting to know them) except things don't get overly physical or sexual in a friendship. So until your allowed to date just make guy friends when your hanging out with your group. You'll at least get a better idea of what the guy is really like and when your allowed to date, you'll know which of these guys you'd like to go out with.
2006-12-02 02:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rukh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends aren't handbags. You don't need one just to fit in. How would you feel if someone wanted to date you just so they would fit in with their friends? 13 is very young. I had "boyfriends" when I was 13 but they lasted just a couple weeks. Those "relationships" just cause headaches and fighting, etc. Your parents would be better off letting you figure this out on your own, but since they won't, just don't tell them. 13 year olds only really go on dates as a group anyway, so your parents will be none the wiser. And instead of getting in a fight with your parents, you'll realize having a boyfriend at your age really isn't such a big deal.
2006-12-02 01:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the right age is basically when your ready. And, just cause your ready does not mean your going to get one right away. I got my first at 15... it all depends. I dont agree with your parents, personally i think it should be up to you, weather or not to date. They may not approve of the guy, but thats not for them to decide. try talking to them nicely about it, and in a mature manner... maybe your can work something out for next year or something..
anyways, thats my two cents.
good luck.
2006-12-02 01:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by John B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be about a junior in college if you're a guy, and a freshman in college if you're a girl. Your parents are right. I'm 21 and I haven't even started dating yet. Be patient and get your life together first!
2006-12-02 01:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 13
parents kiilll
2006-12-02 01:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by nαrcíssα [misses being a TC] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be focusing on school and having fun. Boys will come later. I think 16yrs old is good enough to go dating unsupervised.
2006-12-02 01:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by HotMommi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont tell your parents if he asks you out. just say youre going over to a friends house or something. and have a relationship without your parents knowing ;)
2006-12-02 01:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
13 is ok for it if youready but its more complex then one may think i would say your parents know you bst and wait ubtill your 16 or so
2006-12-02 01:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by groovergabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should wait for 3 years to go
2006-12-02 01:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋