the importance of virginity?

Question

do you think a man can accept that you aren't a virgin and want to marry you?

Answer 1

Yes, of course! I know that where I live (UK) most women are probably not virgins when they get married! As long as you love the guy I don't see why it would be an obstacle. Yes, even if he's Christian. Forgiveness is one of their main teachings, right?
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Answer 2

Hon, virginity is very rare these days. Especially in the US and other "western-civilized" countries. Most folks are NOT virgins when they get married....and who would want to be? What if you get this guy to bed and find out that he can't please you? YIKES! You're stuck!

The whole "virginity equals purity" nonsense was shoved down our throats by the ever pure and honest Christian Church. Nevermind that it was only the female who was required to be a virgin. Men could do whatever they chose...so long as they didn't deflower any virgins (also known as "adultry") in the process. If they did they broke one of the commandments. They were limited to messing around with prostitutes. LOVELY!

So, no...virginity is not all that important...it's hippocritical.

Finally, for the second part of your question: If a man won't accept you for who you are then you need to find another man. The man you should marry will love you for who you are...all your faults and strengths are part of you and he will accept that WILLINGLY. Don't accept anything less than a man who loves you UNCONDITIONALLY. If you do you are setting yourself up for misery and, ultimately, divorce.

Good luck, and I hope real love finds you!

Answer 3

OF course. I think if you love eachother and trust eachother that is all that you need. Then again it depends on the man. If he has religious or other beliefs that he follows which would then be a different story. I believe that sex and marraige go hand in hand. Sex as everyone will say is a minor part, but they are all lying. I believe in testing the waters before jumping in. As I believe most people do. I see alot of women lying about their sexuality. So it's hard to believe in most cases when they say they are virgins. Honestly it is an extra perk to be with a virgin, everything is new to them and you are their first. Just follow you instincts. I've been married for 13 years and my hubby knew I wasn't a virigin. It really depends on the guy, you know him better than any of us. Unless you're talking in general.

Answer 4

I don't know where do you live, but, assuming that you live in a European or North-American country, I strongly doubt that there are men out there who actually expect a woman who is old enough to be married (meaning older than 22-25 years old) to be still a virgin!

I certainly don't believe that men consider this issue important either. I mean, this is the 21st century we are talking about!
If you ask me, no serious person would care much if you are a virgin or not.

Answer 5

every guy will have a different opinion on this. it will depend on the guy's values/morals/attitudes towards sex and towards marriage.

i think it also depends on whether the guy himself is a virgin or not.

it may also depend on the type of past both you and he have.

most would consider it acceptable if you were not a virgin because you were in a previous long-term relationship.

it may be another story if you had a wild and crazy past that included tons of sex partners on a casual basis..

you don't say if this is a hypothetical question, or if this is an actual situation you are in.

if you are actually involved with a guy who seems to have a problem with your past, then he probably has demons that will be tough to get over. if he wants to marry a virgin, then unfortunatly, he'll probably never be able to totally love you and accept you. as sad as this may be, you may have to consider ending the relationship.

Answer 6

I think virginity can be seen as a red flag. If a woman stays a virgin beyond a certain age, I would wonder what's wrong with her. I would think most people would want to have a number of experiences before commiting to marriage.

Answer 7

Yes, absolutely. Personaly I would prefer to marry a woman with a little experience. Not 100 guys but a few isn't bad. I've never had a virgin and I never want one. Not to be hostile but when I'm with a woman I like to please her and be pleased. It's hard to please a woman without experience and even though I'm always up for a challenge, that's not one of them. Virgins are way too tight anyway. Tight is good but too tight is not. I'm a little bigger than average so it's hard to accomplish. I've tried in the past with a virgin but couldn't get it in. I've vowed to not try again.

Answer 8

God man one man for one woman.Yes a man can except that you are not a Virgin.In today's society there are not to many Virgins out there which is ashame.There are still some Virgin men out there also hard to find them but they are there!

Answer 9

l hated being a virgin, but l hated sex even more l definately don't want to marry a virgin l wouldn't even know what to do with a girls virginity.

Answer 10

I would have to say yes this a modern world we live in and there are not to many Virgins out there like that and if there is it is very rear to find one.