ok, my boyfriend has a quick temper and when he gets mad he takes it out on me! he apologizes for it all the time....i know u thinking that i should leave him but i cant leave him i am in love with him. his family hasnt really been good to him they took him for granted and more and i am the best thing that ever happened to him. yesterday he told me that the last time he was happy was when his mom and brother and sister left him alone for a day or two and he had the whole house to hisself. what should i do??? i love him so much! i am afraid to leave him because he needs me but dont know how to treat me.
2006-12-02 00:53:45 · 11 answers · asked by ki-ki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is the scenario for an abusive relationship and you are mistaking his dysfunction for "love".
2006-12-02 00:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry darling, you mean bad temper
you can make excuses as much as you want but you have been abuse and no one in their right mind is going to tell you to leave him because you think that you are the best thing that ever happen to him if that is true than he will not be abusing you, and also if you truly were good for him you should be good to yourself
as well as to let go so he can grow up stop making excuses for him, I wonder how your parents will feel when they are attending your funeral because you can't leave some jerk that needs you
you should call the abuse help line and listen to some stories that women tell and realized that you are not the only one that come with the same story nor is your boyfriend the only ones that apologized after the deeds
So good luck
and Hope you get smart soon
or see a counselor to get yourself some self esteem
by the way you are the worst thing that ever happen to him
because you have not kick his *** to the curve
and he is using his family as an excuse
2006-12-02 09:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you like to be beat, because that's the next step in his temper displays.Get him into anger management or maybe you are afraid to mention that. All this takes a lot of time and effort, run as fast as you can and don't turn back.
2006-12-02 09:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, sorry to say but don't fool yourself. He doesn't really love you. Oh yes, he may like having you around. If you loved something would you hit it? Love and anger are two different emotions. Don't feel sorry for him or yourself. Concentrate on improving the relationship or warn him that you will leave him.
2006-12-02 09:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by elfworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"But I Love Him" Famous last words of the abused. Love yourself first Darlin. The guy has a lot of anger in him. He needs professional help or he needs to get a life. If you stay with him you'll need professional help too.
2006-12-02 09:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Temper how? Does he hit you? You need to seriously consider what kind of danger you could be putting yourself in and y would you want to stay with someone that hurts you even if its just with words!!!!
2006-12-02 08:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, sounds like you are mistaking sympathy for love. Sounds like you want to leave him but won't for the fear that you will be compounding on his alread hurtful life. Truth is, if he finds this to be true, you will hurt him more than ever.
2006-12-02 08:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him how you feel and see what he says to you. If he cares about you he will "respect your feelings" and try another tactic when he gets a hot temper.
Be calm and ask him softly. If you don't have respect, resilience and responsibility it won't work.
2006-12-02 08:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by Have Faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he has a problem and needs counselling. You can't deal with it anymore so his choices are to get counselling or the next time he blows his top you are gone.
2006-12-02 08:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM TO GET SOME COUNCELING
HE NEEDS IT
BEFORE SOMEONE GET HURT
MAYBE AN ANGER MANAGEMENT COARSE
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-02 09:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋