my ex lef me las mnth. She saying how she doesnt luv me and want to muv on. afte 2 wks of acting out we meet for diner and she sayin shes scared n wants to move on. After we kiss n cry n say bye. a day after she calls n tells me how much she missd me. So we get bac 2gether n the whole week she tells me stuff about marraige and movin in with me which was are intent be4. she goes to see her friend 4 de wk n when she coms bac the distance from before is bac. On thanksgvn after dinner she ask me if i am mor in luv then her. sayin she now wants 2 muv on. I call her friday she says she dosnt feel the same and only cam bac 2 see if she can force herself 2 luv me. I dont undrstand. y say all that stuff n not mean it. Is she confused wil she call me . or is it al ovr. should i call her 2nite. she is online should. can i tlk 2 her then. I truely luv her n miss her i want there 2 b something. i tlked 2 her freind n see dosent have any answers 4 me. should i try and talk to the friend agan? man!
2006-12-02 00:24:54 · 11 answers · asked by ken hill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u have the answer right there. Tell her that u luv her, tell her how much she means to u. Talking to her friends for a whole week could have gotten her the idea that she wants to be single for a while. ( its wat girls do )
It was kinda mean that the day after Thanksgiving she made her mind out and was going to move on. Its a part of life, but if u do luv her very much call her, 1 last time and thats it try as hard has u can to get her back. Even remind her of all the funny, sad and happy things u guys did togather
I wish u the best of luck
2006-12-02 00:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by 2cute4you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart certainly goes out to you, for it is so obvious how this girl is playing you.
Of course, she continues to bounce back and forth for she knows you are in love with her and keep your arms and doorway open wide for her ......
Force herself to love you?
ANYONE deserves better than that!
One generally loves more deeply than another but either you love someone or you do not.
I can tell from how you have shared that this will be hard for you, but back away from her for at least a couple of weeks.
Do not take calls from her, do not allow her to move in/move out or stay overnight. If she needs explaination, tell her you need some space at this time.
If AFTER this timeframe she wants to talk, meet somewhere anywhere away from your home with her.
Openly let her know how much she has hurt you with this behavior and express why you had to take these drastic steps to make HER realize her feelings.
Love is special and unique - not something to be used to ensure you a place to stay.
If you do not hear from her after these two weeks, there is the answer you may have most likely have known all along, just could not bring yourself to see.
Wish you the best for you deserve better than this treatment for sure!
God bless!
2006-12-02 00:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure she'll call again. and keep calling until you get tired of the games and tell her to buzz off. You are nothing more than entertainment to her at this point. You all may(if you're lucky) have one option left and that is counseling. Yeah, people don't like counseling, yada yada. If you wanted to learn how to box you'd ask Tyson, right? So if you want to learn how to manage a relationship you ask a trained professional. And actually you can do that without her unless you think you are doing it specifically for her.
2006-12-02 00:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space...she is clearly confused and the last thing you want is for her to come back to you if she doesn't really love you....give it some time ...if it meant to be and she truely loves you then she will come back and the two of you can figure it out...it sounds like she is ready to move on with her life and if she is then you should let her go.....you deserve someone who loves you and who will not put you on the constant roller coaster ride....good luck
2006-12-02 00:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so listen DONT CALL HERi know it hurts but dont if she loves you and wants it to work out she will come to you dont let her know your down bout it she is talking to some one else and it isnt has serious has she thought it would be so she is hanging on to you for back updont let her do this to you either she wants you or she dont and as far as her friend she is in with it and knows just dont want to hurt you even more so dont ask her friend i know from my past that it hurts and you want to hear her you want to know it will be okay but dont let her drag you down even more go out find some new friends and dont talk to her if she really loves you she come back and stay not just for a day or so so if she does call be nice but dont act like you need her act as if its no big deal that you guys are apart then you will see if she really wants to make it work and im sure she does still care and does still love you but if she seeing some one else she is really confused because she like the new attention but still loves you so find out before you break your heart even more
2006-12-02 00:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by harleygirled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you love this girl but what are you man? she leaves when she wants to and comes bak when ever she feels to?What you can do though is talk to her one last time and dont force her into doing anythng just tell her how it is dont try to be nice if you're mad.if she doesnt want you then move on with your life maybe it wasnt meant to be
2006-12-02 00:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her. It would probably be a tragedy for you to take her back. Good luck with the next one!
2006-12-02 00:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the "again" part should give you your answer. Back off, she said she doesn't love you, take her at her word and move on.
2006-12-02 00:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by getting2old2quick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She playing you...move on to someone more mature.
2006-12-02 00:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on mate
2006-12-02 00:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋