There is this guy I met last week through our common friend. We both think very alike and have same hobbies, but I know that he has a gf (dated for a year in college). He asked me to go out and have dinner with him twice last week. During dinner, he complained about his relationship with his gf to me, how he wanted to break up but he doesn't want to break his gf's heart, and asked me what do I think about him...etc...We both know that we have feelings for each other...Yesterday, his gf is back in town, he asked me whether I will still go out with him as a friend...My moral told me that I should not...should I still go out and have dinner/lunch (as friends) with him?
2006-12-02 00:21:19 · 17 answers · asked by queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, it is not right for him to talk with you about his gf ...if he's having problems with her, he should deal with it alone...you have nothing to do with his relationship with his gf...
second, you cannot go out with him for dinner as friends cause you said you both have admitted that you like each other...if you will go out, i think it's proper to say you two are already dating...
If he's really sincere about you, he has to fix his problems first and not drag you along with it anymore..he should decide, then if say they broke up...you and him should be another story...there should be no ex-gf tugging along...i hope it's a happy ending!
2006-12-02 00:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by nozmiat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful... He is seeking approval to going out? If in his mind you were friends he would be able to let her know that your friends. If he has to say hes going out with the guys it will get ugly. Do not give advice on breaking up with her because it will come back to haunt you. It is better to start a relationship with someone that is not in a relationship than with someone that is jumping from one to another. the drama will get thick and will end up very ugly. You tell him that you think of him as a great person, to answer you would like to see something happen "I sugest not to answer that." Let him know its a difficult situation to answer and if things were diffrent you could possily give a an answer. Do not come between a man and a woman. When your together and he is complaining, listen to what he has to say, but give as little advice as possible. Just turn the question around and ask what he thinks, and if he were to end the relationship, I suggest not to start anything right away. Allow the hot coals to cool.
2006-12-02 08:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jeb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused, what is the question here? He is taken whether he likes it or not. And fact of the matter is if he didn't want to be taken he wouldn't be. Hence the term "free country". I can't tell if you're looking for encouragement on selling out your morals or if you're asking someone to agree with you that you are considering a mean and dispicable act that you need to not do. But I'd back you on the latter.
2006-12-02 08:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and woman can't just be friends, they have to have a sexual attractiveness towards each other. If this guy isn't man enough to break it off with his gf then stay away from him. You're going to get hurt in the long run.
2006-12-02 08:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy into it. Too many guys will do the whole have his cake and eat it, too, thing. If you allow him to see you and to stay with his girlfriend, he'll continue on with the gf and leave you as his side thought. Tell him that you're interested in him, but not as a friend, and to call you when it's over with the gf.
2006-12-02 08:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never listen to your morals listen to your heart, but the sad thing is if it is a long distant relationship (him and his girl) you might be the one sitting on the side lines cause it sounds like he just needs soemone some of the time when he's feeling lonely
2006-12-02 08:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have fellings for him then you should give it a try, or first get to know his gf and decide if she is right for him and if you think she isnt then tell him and see how things work out.
Good luck!
2006-12-02 08:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by me_yes_me5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's wrong with just being friends with a guy? as long as you make it clear you are just friends and you're not just waiting around to go out with him when he breaks up with his girlfriend. seems like that's what he wants you to do so make it clear.
2006-12-02 08:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no plz dont interfare in deir relation ship. if dat boy ask a help frm u must help him . 1 day god will bless u if everthing goes weelll
2006-12-02 08:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by hum apke hai kaun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! because he's getting what he wants and you're getting more feelings. if he doesnt handle that soon u should walk and dont look back ya heard.
2006-12-02 08:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by dipper9stikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋