UGH! I've written several times before, about this guy I like very much. I'm 44. He's 43. I took the advice of others and left him a lone. Decided it was best. Now, all of a sudden, he's back to flirting with me and talking about having sex with me. I laugh it off and tell him "he's toying with me" and that he's full of BS. He keeps saying..."you never know". I do still have feelings for him. I know he needs more time to recoop from a failed marriage. Early on, I told him a few times how I felt about him. At 1st. he seemed interested. Then, however, he started saying stuff like "I'm too good of a friend to do that to." or "He doesn't want to ruin our friendship." All clear signs, to me, that he just wasn't interested. So I left him a lone. Stayed friends with him, but held my true feelings back. Now, after a few months, he's starting again with the "heavy flirting". I'm more confused now than ever. He must be pretty confused. I just say, I know I am. * bangs head on desk* UGH! :\
2006-12-02 00:03:07 · 8 answers · asked by Fuzzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fuzzy, I suggest you give him a chance to prove himself. But please never rush into any major decision making. Take your time to follow the steps and friendship with him. Make sure you both have things in common, for it's best to have your friend as your lover. Your friend is the guy with whom you share the same ideas, opinions and every other things in life. Cheers!
2006-12-02 00:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's the confused one. Just be straightforward with him and tell him that if nothing's gonna come of this that he needs to stop because it's not fair to you for him to play games. Respect yourself enough to realize if this is a game or a reality. If it's real then proceed with caution. He's fresh off a divorce and may just be looking for a new piece of tail. If your cool with friends with benifits then maybe that's the best answer right now. Most of the times friends with benifits carries on to an actual relationship. But you have to be okay witth the fact that it may not.
2006-12-02 00:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opposites attract! When you were forward, he drew back. But, because you held back, it caused him to move forward. I believe he really is interested in you. He probably missed the attention you were giving him, BUT, persue something more than friendship; HOWEVER, DO NOT have sex with him yet. Tell him if he is interested in more than friendship now, that you guys can just take it slow and start dating...see how it goes.
**Want to make sure he just isn't looking for the BOOTAY!***
2006-12-02 00:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Author Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 14:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have hormones too. His "horniness meter" could be a raging 10 and then start to fade in a little while.
He also may just need someone else to validate that "he's still got it". You've worked for him before. It may just be that he needs an ego boost.
If you ride out his feelings, he may latch onto someone else that fills this void.
2006-12-02 00:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it does feel strange giving you advice but i guess we all need it at some time or the other......just hold on a while more ...try to figure out what he really wants.Doesnt seem to me that he loves you though.But just give him some time,maybe he's now getting over his broken relationship and ready to give you a chance.
2006-12-02 00:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe he's just looking for sex.
2006-12-02 00:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, u guys are old, u'd think u'd b mature enough to talk and figure it out like adults...
2006-12-02 00:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋