My almost 8 mth old son still isn't able to cruise or crawl. He can push himself around on his belly and go backwards, stand with assistance, sit up unaided, etc. The only problem is he wants us to constantly be holding him up or play with him on the floor. If we leave the room he screams. If we aren't playing with him or only a few feet away, he whines and cries. Is this normal? I am torn as to whether it is seperation anxiety or just him being frustrated that he can't get around to do the things he wants to do, so he screams for us. I feel bad doing housework or other things I need to do because he gets so unhappy. Other family members say to just leave him on the floor with some toys, that he'll get over it. Am I hurting him more by always running to him and doing everything for him?
2006-12-01 23:31:23 · 6 answers · asked by Sexy_Bunny 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Sorry, but walkers are illegal in Canada.
2006-12-02 04:07:34 · update #1
well that is kinda a tuff one. I understand you wanting to come to him when he cries ( as I do the same sometimes), but what your family says is true. You do have to let him soothe himself sometimes, or there is a chance that he may become spolied and always want to be held or tended to 24/7. As we all know being a mom is a big enough job, without having to deal with a baby demanding attention 24/7. It may be hard at first, but eventually he will start to notice that you will not always run to him for everything. Let him play in a playpen or any other secure area alone. GIve him plently to keep busy as well as his sippy cup and favorite toys.
2006-12-02 01:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jm 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's just frustrated.
I know alot of people are against these, but get him a baby walker. then he'll have the independant way to get around and you won't have to constantly be holding him up.
My daughter literally just turned 8 months old when she started crawling, although she could do that going backward everywhere thing.
She used a baby walker from about 6 months onwards, and a week or two before her birthday she walked on her own, and hasn't stopped since!
Don't feel about what you do for your baby.
2006-12-02 03:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, My son is now 13 months old. He never started walking until a couple of days before his birthday, but i was never worried about that. He did a lot of scooting around on the floor sort of like your baby and just all of a sudden he hopped up and decided to walk along the furniture and then one day he was just OFF and now he's into everything and walking all over.
I think I was more frustrated than he was because I have an older son that walked at 10m and a daughter that walked at 9m- so he was just a bit later than the others and I thought something might be wrong.
I also TOTALLY know what you mean about him screaming. I am the kind of person that holds a baby instead of leaving them to cry and people always told me with my other babies that I was spoiling them by holding them too much. Well- I tell you this- I held ALL my kids and cuddled and rocked them and when they cried I grabbed them up and snuggled them in and yeah- they may wanted to be carried a lot- but now my older two are bigger they dont want to be carried around, they are not spoiled, they are GREAT LOVELY KIDS! And I tell people that and they think Im lying and wrong for holding them so much.
But I say this- they are only that size for a couple years. ENJOY IT! Hold them and love them and cradle them all you can cause as soon as they are old enough to get around on their own they dont want to be hugged and carried and babied.
My son is 13m now and he sits in my lap a lot and will go and get his toys and bottle and walk right up and throw his arms up for me to get him and I grab him up and he sits and has his bottle and plays with his toys. He does cry sometimes when I cant get him cause Im washing dishes or whatever. And often I feel guilty cause I work full time and dont see him as much as Id like so I stop what Im doing and go and sit with him... to the detriment of my housework... so the house is in shambles... but SO WHAT... they will get older and phase out of it... But right now- I'm happy to give my kids all the attention they want.
Sorry if that's too much info... I do get carried away. But good luck with your baby! Don't give in to people giving you Jip about your him. Maternal insticts and all. Do what you feel is right for YOUR baby.
2006-12-02 00:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by close2realize 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens to lots of parents, you're not alone.
Your baby has no desire to crawl towards things or to entertain himself with toys because you do everything for him.
Your baby needs more floor time and favorite toys two feet away to encourage the crawling.
You are meeting too many of his needs and a little crying is not a bad thing.
A sign of progress is that most babies do start in the backwards direction then forward.
Be sure to protect his knees from rug burns.
2006-12-01 23:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by Peach 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave him on his belly more! This way he will learn to crawl faster. Lay on your belly a foot from him with his fav toy and keep trying this until he comes to it!
He may be a baby that never crawls but walks first.
I would get him a walker and see how he does!
2006-12-02 02:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seperation anxiety happens at around 8 months. but it would also be the fact that he cant crawl. lol, enjoy it, he wont me a baby for long.
2006-12-01 23:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by huney_mumi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋