well have been going out with my boyfriend of over a year and i love him so much he is the best and nicest guy ever, but the other day when we were arguing he said that "i was BITCHING at him about something". i got really mad and hung up on him. first time any of us ever hung up on each other. i know to some people its no big deal but i have my limits to what i will take or not and i have always said to myself if any one ever calles me a bi*** i would break up with them without even thinking about it. he did not call me that but it is close. i dont WANT to break up but i dont know, because i think once that respect has gone it wont come back like it used to be. what do u think i should do? i have not talked to him for like 2 days (and thats alot for us) he has called me alot and left messeges and voicemails saying hes sorry and wants to work this out. what shoul i do? what would you do?
2006-12-01 22:34:54 · 10 answers · asked by LIZARD 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
* I meant what should I DO if my boyfriend said...*
2006-12-01 22:38:18 · update #1
If you break up over something like that, u don't have much commitment and good luck ever staying in any long-term relationship. He didn't even call u a direct name, he said u were "bitching" which is the same as nagging etc. Don't let what sounds like a good relationship go over something like this. If that is the biggest thing he has done or said to u in over a year u should be thanking your lucky stars. If you care about him call him back, he isn't going to chase u forever and I really do think u are over-reacting........alot. Good luck.
2006-12-02 03:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should review the situation of which he was reacting to. Were you completely out of line? Were you being very rude or bitching as some would put it accidentially or not? If you agree you were in the wrong and a bit out of line then I would let it slide. I understand the whole respect thing is very fragile line to cross back over to but you two love eachother and have a wonderful thing it sounds like. You should talk it through open mindedly and give him antoher chance.
2006-12-01 23:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by trydluv4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he didn't call you a bit_ch right? He said you were bitching. So were you? Were you bitching at him? The poor guy makes light of the obvious and you are going to dump him for it? You should probably be the one apologizing if you were bitching. You stated that the two of you were arguing, Arguments most often include one or both parties bitching at one another. Get over it, stop over reacting and twisting his words. Believe it or not, there is a difference.
2006-12-01 22:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
Its quite common in a relationship
Every thing shud me fair in love n war
Juss forgive him n warn him that this is the last time u r going to hear it.
Keep me updated regarding the status dear
All the best
BOB
2006-12-01 23:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu do what ever you feel like doing. The fact that you ask this means that you want to sort it out, otherwise you would have dumped him like you said you will always do. Call him back, sort it out, men say things they dont always mean.
2006-12-02 00:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope, okay? Be happy that you have someone. Not like me, just got there heart broken. Talk this out.... I'm sure you will find what was missing. Good luck!
2006-12-01 22:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by graduation_girl2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every relationship is different , you might have promised yourself that you will not let anyone insult you, .( which is really good). but in this situation it depens on how you actully feel about the whole thing...do you feel he is insulting you??? do you feel hurt your self respect??
donot let your pervious decision of breaking up hamper your judment now and also on the other hand donot ignore your decision also...
2006-12-01 22:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all he as no right to be saying that even though he didn't say the exact thing its just the same he shouldn't be saying things like that even though he was upset.... I say you give him one more chance but let it be his last deprive him of the things gave him before let him pay a little
2006-12-01 22:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by dare2dream 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hate to tell you, but it happens in mostly every relationship. just ignore him if hes beign an asshole. give him some time.
2006-12-01 23:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologise to him
2006-12-01 22:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋