Mum has always been very anti-sex b4 marriage and has always said that if i got myself pregnant then don't bother coming home. She's not the sorta person to joke about this stuff...she has too much pride. So how then do i tell her i'm pregnant and have no other support? It's not confirmed by a doctor because i'm too scared but a home test said yes. Please help...especially mums who have been faced with this situation.
2006-12-01 22:25:17 · 35 answers · asked by ***Miracles Happen*** 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I didn't go out of my way to do this. At the time i thought i was with the right person and the condom broke...I took precautions after and i guess they just didn't work for me.
2006-12-01 22:41:44 · update #1
If you are not in danger for your life, then you need to sit down with mum and be honest about what happened. You might want to do it over lunch at a restaurant so she cannot get overworked. She will have to remain calm, and it might give her the time she needs to think things through. Be clear about what you want to say. If you want to keep the baby, be sure you have some sort of plan mapped out that does not leave her watching the baby 24/7. Show her you are mature enough to handle the situation. Also, let her know how sorry you are for letting her down and ask that she find it somewhere in her heart to forgive you. Also ask her to remember that you are her little girl and you are scared and you need the emotional support of your mum right now more than anything else.
Good luck, sweety.
2006-12-01 22:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
wow, you really got yourself in a knot. none the less you need to tell your mom. If you are pregnant you will need to see a doctor and have certain tests done. I know its easier said than done, but the longer you wait the harder it will become for you to do this. I know all mothers dread for their teenage daughter to come home pregnant but you know it happens. I have 2 daughters and it scares me to death. I would be upset and disappointed but in the end i would still love them and the baby. I really think that once you talk to your mom, she may react harshly and say some mean things or she may even surprise you. Just try and explain what happened and go from there. I can honestly say you will both have to take it one day at a time. Love is a hard bond to break. I am sure things will work out in the long run. Good luck
Natashal
2006-12-02 07:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by natasha l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be easy, but, the sooner the better.
She will be like a bat out of hell for maybe two to three months.
Then, she will be your best friend and will help all she can.
Remember, the hardest part will be on you, you messed up and now it's time to pay up. 17 or not, this won't be a field trip for you and as time passes you will realize that your mum has always wanted the best for you and you will appreciate her in a whole new way because you will be a mum too.
Good luck and I have faith that you will make things right.
Be sure mum goes to the doctor with you. She can hold your hand during the exam if you need her to.
2006-12-01 23:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all,your seventeen your legally old enough to be pregnant.My cousin got pregnant at seventeen,she's now twenty and has now also got a one year old daughter Niamhh as well as er three year old Kelsey.Her mum didnt go ballistic.But i understand that this probably doesnt make you feel any better.So i would advise to buy another test just to confirm it,if you are to scared to visit the doctor.Also there are special clinics just for teenagers involved in pregnancy and sti's and they are strictly confidential.If you find out you definately are pregnant then you need to consider whether you want the child or not.Think about things like your future.I personally disagree with abortion.If you are definately pregnant and want to keep it,then say something like "Mum,i think i might be pregnant,but i'm not sure..".It worked for my friend Jaynie who found out she was pregnant at sixteen and her mom just said "Well we need to find out for sure" and such.And her mom is very strict.Her mom had said before that of she ever got pregnant then she would slap her and change their locks.But she now has a lovely boy Freddie and is still living with her mom and she never got a slap round the cheek.Just remember you are old enough.Good luck..
2006-12-02 08:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about the boyfriend that got you pregnant?? You are in these together he will have to support you emotionally at this time of crisis.
Try to calm down and figure out what to do next. If you don't want the baby then try to research and find some places where they help pregnant girls have their baby and have them adopted.
Abortion will never be an option. You will regret this action forever.
Try to have some friends around you for support at this time of crisis.
Who knows your Mom might change her mind if you tell her the truth. A mother is always a mother. She loves you enough not to turn herself away at this time when you need her most.
Good Luck!!! May God bless you!!!!
2006-12-01 22:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you made a really big mistake and that you hope that she will forgive you. Then tell her that you thought you were with the right person, but the condom broke and now you're pregnant but you don't know for sure because you haven't been the doctor yet. I really hope that everything works out for you. God bless...
2006-12-02 08:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to have some sort of support before and after you tell your mom. I know you said your mother will "kill" you, but do you really think she will commit murder or be very, very upset with you? More than likely she will be very, very upset with you. Counselors can assist you. Consider speaking with the public health nurse assigned to your school, a guidance counselor you trust or someone at the local planned parenthood if you have one in your area.
Tell someone whom you trust to support you through this while you figure out the how and when to tell your mom. Don't go it alone.
2006-12-02 00:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Blackgold347 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go to the doctor and see if you're really pregnant or not, those home tests aren't always 100% acurate, don't get yourself worried until you know for sure.
Then you're eventually going to have to tell your mom, pray, get up some courage, and then just go tell her.. explain it to her nicely though, explain your whole story of what happened, and hopefully she'll understand.
2006-12-02 03:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by StarChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to be honest with your mother. Most times people are too afraid to tell their parents things because they are afraid of what they will do.
Yes she will be upset, not so much because you are pregnant, but because you now have to put any career plans on hold to have the baby. But you may be surprised to find that she will support you in the end.
2006-12-01 22:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
your gonna have to tell her, but if your mum is really like you describe her, i would ask a friend to stay over her house for a while, just incase. You better go to the docter, so you can get a real test.
2006-12-02 01:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋