One minute your man is telling you he loves you then the next he's yelling at you for something you did not do,or were'nt even around to be able to do it.Example:I like to sew and my sewing needles are always finding themselves in his foot.Now I have'nt been home for 2 or 3 days,he has and his friends have ;okey i'm home now and not even been here 5 hours and he comes in the frontroom with one of my sewing needles in his hand yelling at me because he just found it on the floor and almost stepped on it.He tells me it's all my fault and he wants to jabb me with it I told him I havent been here and he getts p.o'd and stomps off to bed.is this a tepicale man thing or what because I'd really like to know I mean after not seeing him for 2 or 3 days I wanted to snuggle down and watch a movie with him,but no way he wants to fight..why?why?Is'nt he happy I'm home dose he want me to leave again????HELP?
2006-12-01 21:49:14 · 14 answers · asked by Wicked Wonders69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think we're on the same boat!!! he always likes to pick on things that i do and finds fault in it!!! at first, i didn't mind, but later on it started to eat me up so i picked some of his doings and do the same thing that he does with me!! this is not to show revenge but to let him know that we are not at all perfect!!! i respect his space and if he would respect my mine, ( as long as we won't abuse it ) we'll all be at peace!!
2006-12-01 22:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by le mizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, why are your sewing kneedles on the floor? THey should be in a box or pin cushion.
If he is getting so angry with you over this, then he is not respecting you, especially if he says he wants to stab you with the needle. That is a very bad sign. You need to sit down and talk with him and if you can't work it out, dump him. He sounds like he could turn into someone who will eventually physically abuse you. Get out while you still can.
2006-12-01 22:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it hurts when he steps on the needle. I think it is a typical man thing to not want to get punctured in the foot. Maybe he just wants to take his shoes off.
Get some control over your needles. Stop telling him it's not your "fault" they're on the floor. You are the boss of the needle. Pick them all up. Vacuum. Maintain. See if he doesn't calm down.
2006-12-01 22:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some anger issues.
Something is causing this anger, you haven't been home in 3 days, therefore you couldn't have left the needle on the floor.
Either find out what's really bothering him with a heart to heart discussion or get out of there and move on.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-01 22:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you weren't home for 2 to 3 days just he and his friends were there.I have a funny feeling they weren't doing needle point or cross stitching so the needle had to be yours.I step on a needle and it broke off in my foot it had to be cut out I was out of work for a week because of it.Save yourself some pain and aggravation and be a little more care full with them.
2006-12-01 22:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your needles are always finding there way to his feet then he has a reason to be angry. This shows a lack of concern for him. Like telling him he is not important enough for you to make sure to pick up after yourself even though it causes him pain. If this is only one small example and he goes off on a rampage for anything you do wrong even if it is the first time he needs anger management help.
2006-12-01 21:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by D J Honestly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, but your question should be
"Why should I stay with a guy who can be so sweet.........."
I doubt you can change is personality, but you can effect it by changing how YOU REACT to it.
If it's just sewing needles vac and clean-up really well, then restrict your sewing to one area of one room, no one likes stepping on needles.
If this is typical of how he vents his frustration, GET OUT.
How do you think he'll react when the kids leave their toys laying around?
2006-12-01 22:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by yorlooksmybiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation, and a friend lent me the book "Mirrors, Windows and Doors" which is written for men, but helped me immensely. This behaviour isn't love, it's abusive, and he'll get worse.
If you love him, then try loving yourself enough to get out and find someone who won't disrespect you that way. Now.
After five kids and twenty years it'd only be harder.
2006-12-01 22:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Callisto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS A SELF SERVING BULLY.Does he he talk or yell at other people like he does to you if so then hes a bully
2006-12-02 01:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by cindybells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a potential abuser. He is already threatening you with physical violence. Get out before it gets out of control.
2006-12-01 22:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋