I just turned 22 and in the past two yrs I had 2 beautiful boys. Ages 11/2 & my lil one is only 5 months old. I've lost about 55lbs since I had him and am now at my original weight which is 118lbs. I believe that dressed I still look pretty hot but naked is a hole different story. I now have some saggy skin on my tummy, stretch marks on my tummy and underarms and don't even get me started on my breast witch are now none existent. So naturally I would rather be partially dressed when my husband and I have sex but he get me naked every time. Now we’ve decided we are going to have a THREESOME with another guy who I DO NOT want to get naked in front of but my husband says that cloths would be a huge turn off for any guy and I wonder if that’s true. Just want to get some honest feed back what would a guy prefer?
2006-12-01 21:30:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anthony & Angie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on the guy. You're young, and if your third is young also he might not look at stretchmarks the same way an older man would who has more life experience than he.
On the other hand, he may be so happy to be in a room with you naked that he doesn't care. My philosophy is that if you get to the point of being naked with a man, he wants whatever it is you have to offer. Otherwise he wouldn't get that far with you.
I am in my early forties and have three children. To me stetchmarks are "lifemarks" and are the difference between a "girl" and a "woman". They are what they are are and nothing more. Personally, I prefer a "woman" because generally she is more comfortable with her body and thus a better lover.
In the end, do what you are comfortable with. Most women I swing with are completely naked (and since most of them are in their late 20's and 30's they have had children). BUT, wearing some strategically placed clothing (such as over your belly if that makes you more comfortable) can be a huge turn-on. Boobs? I would never cover those. ;-)
2006-12-02 03:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy but i'll answer this question if you don't mind..Congrats on the weight lost! Stretch marks are a fact of life with women especially ones that had children, and like you losing a tremdous amount of weight after childbirth..Theres not a heck of alot you can do about it..We all have them..*Warning to you* threesomes can cause alot of problems in a marriage, think really hard about it before you do it..We all think of ways to spice up the sex life,and having a threesome is usally on the top of the list..But not always the best way to go..
Congrats on the weight lost! Just think of the stretch marks as , you gave to birth to 2 wonderful little boys, and what it took to get back to your normal weight after the birth. I honestly don't think it bothers men that much..Stretch marks are a fact of life for women, and usually here to stay..
2006-12-02 06:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girlfriend, stretch marks are ugly, I know because I have had two beautiful angels that are 14 months apart with my hubby....He has not once said anything to me about them....If you are insecure, don't do something you might regret...Having a threesome is a scary thing that can turn sour....Search within your self and ask is it about the stretch marks or fear of bringing someone else in your bedroom?
2006-12-02 06:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear your stretch marks as a badge of honor for womanhood but as far as a threesome do not do it. Aren't you married? Your husband agreed to this threesome? He's no husband. If he put you up to this, why are you trying to please your husband and another man you probably hardly know? All of this is freakish and if you go through with it, it will backfire on you. DO NOT DO IT! Some things should remain a fantasy.
2006-12-02 08:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've actually heard that men really don't mind, its a fact of life. Thats what happens when you have kids. I think you being stressed out about stretch marks would turn a guy off more than the marks themselves.
2006-12-02 05:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dee P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well im not a guy but im gonna answer this one, first of all, do u want to do this threesome? if not then dont do it. if so then face the facts, youre gonna have to get naked.... and most guys know that if a woman has had a child there are gonna be some flaws on her body.... thats just the way it is..... good luck with your threesome......
2006-12-02 05:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by DEVIL IN A BLUE DRESS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stretch marks didn't have any effect on me. You should hold off on the threesome. I have heard nothing but relationship ending strories after that was tried. Go for it if your marriage is on the down side. Your poor kids.
2006-12-02 05:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by ckgene 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry. Nobody's perfect. I'd say after 2 kids and you only weigh 118 your doin' damn good! Be proud! As long as your alright with the threesome, go for it! I'm sure the other guy will be just as worried about what your gonna think about him without clothes too. Have fun and enjoy!
2006-12-02 06:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by crazyfazy_7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I have to wonder why any husband would allow another man to sleep with his wife, much less be in the bed with them. It sounds like a disaster to me, and kinda gross.
But as for the stretch make thing don't worry about it, men don't care about them kind of things.
2006-12-02 06:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same feeling about my stretch marks but my man says he loves them. They are reminders of the beautiful gift we have now and they were from the love we have together, so whats to be ashamed of.
2006-12-02 05:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by jennafisch1285 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋