Should i accept the pregnancy?

Question

I'm 22 years old and my girlfriend is pregnant. We've been together 7 years but i'm not ready for kids, i would like her to have a termination but she doesn't want to. How am i suppose to feel about this? it's not just her life.

Answer 1

Accept the pregnancy. After the baby is born and you hold him/her in your arms you will NOT feel teh way you do now. Becoming a parent is a scary thing but it is also the most incredible feeling in the world that nothing NOTHING comes close to feeling. You will see what I mean when you look into your babys eyes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Tough question to answer without more detail but I'll give it a shot. First of all YOU should have used protection if you didn't want to have kids so young. It takes two to tango. If you both have sat down already and discussed this issue in depth and your GF still wants to have the baby, you cannot force her to abort it. Second you do have a responsibility to give financial support to the child. I hope you do not walk away from your GF and leave her holding the bag as it were. Now is is the time to be a man whether or not you stay with her, you should be there for the sake of your child. Help her during the pregnancy financially and emotionally. You might find a change of heart once the baby is here. Otherwise,at the very least you should help raise the child and be involved in it's life as much is possible and that may mean maintaining at least some sort of contact with the baby's mom. How you deal with this very tough problem will be an indication of your level of maturity and character.

Answer 3

There is no way that you could not have known this might happen. You should support her in what she wants to do. Aborting a child is such a personal decision and you probably want her to terminate for different reasons than she wants to have this child. You may not be ready but she is. Support her.Don't make promises you don't intend to keep. But figure out what you are actually willing to do and tell her. But don't give her an "it" or me ultimatum. I hope you step up, you know inside that is what is right even if it seems like a burden now...sometime perceived burdens can become true blessings....really. I never wanted kids. Now I have one grown son, and I wouldn't change a thing. I really would not change it. It's been worth every second. And when i say didn't want..I mean it. I didn't even pick out names, or prepare in anyway. I didn't want it so much I didn't even face it, until the day he was born.The first time you hold your own child you change inside. You are touched deeply in a place that no one else will ever fill. Good luck... Remember John Lennon said "Life is what happens when we are busy making other plans." he said it in a song to his son Sean.

Answer 4

For a start u need 2 tell her how u r feeling! If u r going 2 leave, do it now it will only make it harder 4 mum & baby later. My boyfriend left me when we found out that i was pregnant at 18 he has nothing to do with her BUT I am now married and my husband, he loves her like his own. Remembering the concequences that if u didnt want this child u should have been more responsible and wheather u stay or go u will be a father forever in debted to this child, goodluck

Answer 5

No you're right its not just her life that she's thinking about, its her childs. Sometimes we don't get to pick when certain things happen in our lifes. The two of you have been together a long time , you must love each other. It may not be the ideal time or the time that you had planned on starting a family, but the fact is you have. That child is something that you both helped create and now its time to step up to the plate and take care of your responsibilities. Things will be OK you'll see.

Answer 6

You really should have been prepared and protected if you did not want to have a child at this time in your life. However, this things happen. You have choices...you can be a father, or not (by distancing yourself from your girlfriend and baby). Give yourself time to think things thru before you make any decisions. You're right...it is NOT just your girlfriends life...it is also your life...AND a baby's life. The baby is the only one who didn't have a choice in this matter. I wish you the best.

Answer 7

Your right it's not just her life. She has a little one growing inside her now. You should have thought about how you would have felt about a pregnancy before you had sex, because termination of pregnancy is not a form of contraception.

I guess you better be ready because guess what?

YOUR GOING TO BE A DADDY!!!!!!

Answer 8

Who cares about how you feel. You need to accept the responsibility. You know that every time you stick your thing in her that you risk a pregnancy. You chose to take the risk, and now you need to do everything you can to create the nest that your child is going to need when it's born... including making her your wife so you can ensure that your baby has the security of having a mommy and a daddy in his life (and it is the only way to lock in your parental rights).
*The difference between men and males is men take on their responsibilities --regardless of how they "feel".

Answer 9

No one is really "ready" for children. If you are willing to accept the responsibility for the child then be respnsible, If you are not then it is still your responsibility. Being born from an abusive father I have seen and encountered more then my share of ups and downs. Im not going to tell you how to live your life, however should you decide to have this child then YOU SPOIL THIS CHILD EVERY WAKING MOMENT. Every child is a gife, and you learn from them more about yourself.

Answer 10

since you are not ready, this will have adverse effects on the child and you dont want to screw up a child for his/her entire life... just tell her that.

also, this isn't a 1 year commitment here... the child won't be 18 until you are 40 so you've just tied yourself up for a significant period of time... (and it's not like they're gone at 18 either) - so just tell her you're not ready - and you don't want to bring a life in this world that you are going to ruin.