I'm 20 and a third year in college. I have been in an on and off relationship with a long-term, long distance boyfriend since I came to college. I've also dated a lot of other guys here. I just got out of a relationship because I started acting distant to him, as I still had feelings for the long-term boyfriend. I only dated this guy for 2 months. He phoned me up saying that "we are acting only as friends, so we might as well be." We're still on friendly terms, and I actually felt RELIEVED.
It seems that the majority of my interaction now is with the opposte gender, not in a sexual way, but they talk to me more. I don't like initiating conversation, and I don't want to sound full of it, but the majority of my social life in college comprises of guys hitting on me or asking me out, which is pathetic.
I currently only have one female friend, my ex-roommate, and basically a bunch of male acquaintances. Some of them start creeping me out and so I ignore them
This has left me in a very
2006-12-01 21:19:34 · 2 answers · asked by T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
lonely position, and while it bothers me sometimes, usually it doesn't.
The thing is I have an intense dislike of chit chat and talking just for the sake of talking. I prefer people who I've known well for years, and right now I feel that the only person who is like that is my longterm boyfriend, so I push everyone else away.
Plus I fear that I bore them or they bore me, or both at the same time, so I don't bother. It's just pathetic in that the most social interaction I have is guys hitting on me....is there something wrong with me? What would you recommend?
2006-12-01 21:20:58 · update #1
Also, I find that I purposely lead on some guys, or I do it by accident by talking to them and hanging out with them after they initiate conversation. Then they think we're dating, when we're not, and when I tell them I don't like them like that, they start disliking me. Yet, I slightly intended to lead them on for fun, and then pushed them away...wtf?
2006-12-01 21:22:47 · update #2
You sound lonely and like your lacking good friends nearby. It's always been hard for me to have male friends because they usually fall for me. So, when I'm in a relationship, I generally tend to stay away from guys. It's seems like they are so much easier to get along with than girls though. You purposely leading them on just helps you reassure yourself you're still attractive. Everybody does that at some point. I definitely abhor chit chat. It seems so useless, but sometimes it can lead to a worthwhile conversation.
What you are going through right now is a bad phase in life. Your surroundings really aren't meeting your needs. It changes like all life does. Just hang in there and do what you can to survive it.
2006-12-01 21:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you having a blast
2006-12-02 05:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋