i am no happy with the way the things are going in my life.and i feel like giving up every now and then.I 20 year male from india.I have no friends and i lonely.I always wanted to talk with people and make friends but the thing is that i do not know how to talk,what to talk with others.I mean i can't talk like a normal person.i am like a mum.I dont know what is worng with me.How should i live like this.IF i meet a person whom i know then i will just say " HI" and that;s all I cant say anything more.And if the person asks me something i will not understand it at one time.Loneliness is killing me.Now people just ignore me.Nody cares me.What should do to change this.I tried changing it but i could not succeced.Is there any ray of hope?
2006-12-01 21:11:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Move to a different city and start your life over. That way you won't constantly run into people who tell you bad things about yourself.
2006-12-01 21:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by my_super_unnecessarily_long_name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to change your life:
1. Be smart - lncrease your IQ as well as your sense of humour. Don't try so hard though.
2. Act naturally - don't ever exaggerate.
3. Stop Blabbing about stuffs that is not asked for in the conversation. Only answer when asked. Give opinions if necessary but not biased opinions.
4. dress smart, dont dress like slum area guy. Be neat and clean all the way. Make sure you dont smell from mouth to body.
5. Don't let yourself follow people. Let people follow you. Don;t be too desperate in looking for a friend. Just hang in there and you will have friends even if you didnt ask for it.
6. Give people a reason why they would talk to you ---- don't be arrogant or pessimistic or cynical. Be kind wiith words and use decent language.
7. Build your self confidence and self esteem. Be proud of what you have. Work hard so you get what you wish.
8. Show your talent. BE good at it.
9. Be friendly and always smile even when others don't. Dont force people to like you. You can't please everyone. Its ok to be rejected. Don't give meaning to any gesture you see in people, thats stupid. If people dont like you, it doesnt mean that you are less. Mind yourself and what you do to others and not bother thinking about why people don't like you.
10. Best of all kindness and being a gentleman with good breeding and manners is what counts most all the time.
2006-12-02 05:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that you're unhappy with the way your life is going. Well, I don't know if you're religious or not but I would recommend finding Jesus if you havent already. And if you already have, then start building a close or even closer walk with Him. It really helps through the tough times. Another thing I would recommend is to join a group, club, or organization of any kind. Even if you just show up every once in a while and not say anything to anyone, someone like me is definitely bound to come up to you and introduce themselves...it may even be a hot female! I recommend joining a group that interests you...say the chess club or the "I love MTV Real World" club...even if it's on the internet. You can go into free chat rooms and loosen up there, and then take your experiences from there into the real world slowly at first until you feel comfortable. You can create a "Lonely" group for people who feel lonely and they all can meet up and ease eachother's loneliness. And don't be scared to say anything more other than 'hi' to a person...chances may be that person was equally scared to say 'hi' to you but took a risk. It seems like you want to change, and if you keep that determination, you will. Its not hard at all. There is always a ray of hope. Just keep your head up. If all fails, make a positive comment towards another person...that always brings a smile to their faces, brightens their day, and makes them look at you in a good manner. Hope this helped, and good luck.
2006-12-02 05:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by www.verytruehonesty.ws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the others may be sensing your stress level or how anxious u are, this could lead to a problems(impasses)-in behavior exchanges, but mostly u have to be the first to smile, be the first to make something out of nothing, we are a world of communicative links and u see how linking up works by trying, you try and smile and do real experiences with what u are confident a little and be patient Rome wasn't built in a day, this is the west not the east, God is not an Englishman as this phrase was used for Mountbatten, try happy feeling to suppress and grow with courage
2006-12-02 06:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it's not so bad. Just find another crowd. If no one knows you there, then you can be ANYONE! Make up a character. The key is to act like you always got something going on in your life like buying a new car later or stoping by the mall to scope out chicks later, or gonna check out the new addidas downtown or whatever you want to be into. No one will know if thats you or not so they will accept it and then they willl open up to you. Invite you to a kickass party later. You see you think they're cool because they got somewhere to be now if you get that piont in first, now who's cool? Huu? Who? YOU! GET PUMP MOTHERCJER@!!!!!!!!1!YOU THEM MAN!!!! WHO DA MAN!!! !YOU DA MAN!!!!! RAGE!!!!!!!!!!!! oh ya, smoke pot to. it gives you new insights of life and how you truely want to live it. LSD IS THE next step after that.
2006-12-02 05:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Niceguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you must belive in yourself.Dont you ever give up in your life.Everytime you want to talk with someone just say deep inside "I can do that,I feel that I will succseed now!".Talk at theme that you like for ex.about friendship,school,happy things that have happend in your life.You have to build your attitude.Beat the loneliness,you will see that can be possible.Be brave,have faive in your self..say that you are turning new page in your life and no one can stop you,Belive me i had the same problem.Gives love to people, make everyone to be happy around you.In that way everyone will like you.
2006-12-02 05:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Grom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah, there is hope...
no man is an island.....seclusion need not mean unhappiness.
learn the inner worth of thing...even your drab room had ts own hidden beauty..
2006-12-02 05:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋