Help me please???what do i do??
my ex broke up with me about 9 months ago and i still have feelings for him. recently he has come back into my life 'as a friend' he said. he said nothing has changed in my life since he last seen me. he is trying to get me to get another job and he is emailing me all these jobs to apply for and sending me his resume to use as a template and then he wants me to sent it back to him to review. he also called me three times at work and send me faxes. the first phone call was to see if i got to work safely as i had a car accident and had to get the train. my question is why would he go to so much trouble to help me? is this a normal thing that friends do for each other to this extent thjat he has gone to? is he wanting me to change for us to get back together?? is he wanting to see if we arent going to fight anymore?? what can i do do we can get back together??
2006-12-01 20:12:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
All of the above!!! Just think of the things that drove you guys apart. Are they still there? If yes then either change it or if you can't change it then don't ge back with him! The greatest human stupidity if doing the same thing twice and expecting a different result!!!
2006-12-01 20:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by alegna_2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said that he is coming back in your life just as a friend, then I suggest that you trust him, but be on your guard. He sounds a little possesive and possibly harassing. He is obviously trying to get in your good books again, for better or worse, no one knows.
Friends do help their friends when they are in need. Sometimes they may seem too much, but they mean well. Maybe he is really being a good friend. All the same, be careful and best of luck to you!
2006-12-02 04:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he is trying, a little too hard, I might add, to get you to get a better job. His reasoning, i am not quite sure, i dont know what your current job is, but it could be that he wants to get back with you but maybe feels that in some way your job is keeping you from him or something to that effect. Maybe he is jealous?? It also could be that he is just controlling, and wants to run your life... But on the flip side, hun, it could be that he honest to goodness wants to help you, maybe you have complained to him in the past about your work, or he knows that you dont like it..maybe he wants you both to have a fresh start and is trying to give you incentive to get back together. I am not real sure there could be many things.... Hope I helped in some way..
Good Luck Hun, Follow your heart!!!
2006-12-02 05:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a simular relationship, with my ex also. My ex said and did the same things. But, it got to the point that he was scaring me. He was very possesive and wanted to control me. There are curtain things that you do for friends, but, this sound like, when and if he gets you back, you may regret it. Does your other male friends act like this one? Think about how he treated you, when y'all were together, and how he's treating you now.. Just think first, then re-act.. Best of luck!
2006-12-02 04:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your question should be why he is going to so much trouble to "help you", I think your question should be why he is so goddamn controlling? Also, why can't he accept you for yourself? Obviously if your life hasn't changed since he last saw you, you like your life the way it is. You should not want a person who cannot accept you for yourself, but if you insist on wanting to be with somebody who treats you like an infant, why don't you just ask him what he wants from you instead of overanalyzing something that could possibly be nothing?
2006-12-02 04:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by RockabillyBanana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he is somewhat possessive and egoistic.
He might be just egoistical knowing you cannot find someone else. He said nothing has changed in your life?<<<< think!!!
What kind of jobs is he trying to get you? And why?
Do you need to change job?
Friends can be caring and concerned but not to the point of control and obsession.
Sorry if I am wrong but that is just my opinion.
Be on the alert.....take care......best of luck.
2006-12-02 04:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by winterlotus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the ball is in your court, so you need to decide if you want to play again or not. It up to you!! Take your time and toss it around for a few days-let him keep showing you his feeling, and than decide-only if you have too. Hey, maybe he just wants to be friends. If he was "abusive", forget it, but if you two just fought, people do change. Good luck!!
2006-12-02 04:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant make him want you back but it does seem like he is trying so hard because he does care about you now if he cares in the way of getting back together or just trying to be a friend only time will tell.
2006-12-02 04:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds really weird and controlling to me!! you should move on, if your happy with your life and job, then dont let him try and change it or you!!
tell him hes not your boyfriend any more and that he is either to just LOVE YOU FOR THE WAY YOU ARE, and generally want to be with you, even if its just as a friend, or he is to leave you the hell alone!!
2006-12-02 04:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by sabina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is bad news. Wants to control you. They seem to be the hardest ones to shake too. Don't even be friends. Move on...theres millions out there...pull yourself together....9 months is too long to be hung up on what WAS.....
2006-12-02 04:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by moosie2026 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋