I'm 19 years old i have an obsessive/phichotic gurlfriend actually she is 16 goin to turn 17 she is very jealous like i cant even talk to no other gurl besides her she is always crying and cutting herself whenever she hears some about me or some other gurls from my past relationship i realy dont know what to do i dont even walk with her on the streets because the last time i did she was nagging over my ex she ran in the middle of the street a car almost hit her i mean its serious matter i tried so many times to break up with but everytime i try to tell its not working between us she tries to kill herself but now i'm being scared of the thing she might do to herself what is she kills herself would be considered as a pedophile
because of our age differencial we been goin out almost 2 years now what should i do i need help i tried everything or maybe not all
2006-12-01 20:12:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry, but get rid of her...U don't want someone like that...But that is just me!
2006-12-01 20:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you are nervous over this whole ordeal, who wouldn't be! I have read about people who do this, and it's totally "sick". Really. If you have a relationship with her parents, you need to talk with them, so they can seek help for their daughter. Aren't they noticing the way she acts? Or is she acting different around them? If there are two sides to her, than I would do the break-up, and NO looking back! NONE!!! But, if her parents are just sort of ignoring her actions, call the school counselors, you don't need to tell them your age, but do stress how serious you are, and tell them you are breaking up with her for good. That they need to plan an intervention with her parents, BECAUSE you are NOT in charge of her, or her happiness. Which your not. Than make your move. It's not your fault or your problem, the way she is acting, this started developing way before you came into her life. She needs help, not a boyfriend. Stick by your plans, and don't let this hold your life any longer.
2006-12-01 20:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-mutilation is a serious psychological disorder found in borderline personalities and errupts when attempting to deal with strong emotions or used as a control issue. You can help her by discussing this issue with a school counselor (I would not discuss this with her parents since most likely the problems she is dealing with likely evolved from living within a dysfunctional family system). The girl obviously needs help; however, the decision to seek help is soley hers. The best thing for you is to report, support, yet keep your distance. Apparently, you are the reason, at this point in time, for her to complete her "cutting." This is not a healthy relationship and you would only enable her to continue her act of self-mutilation by continuing to be her boyfriend. If she attempts to commit suicide, know this, honey, it is not your fault. SHE is mentally unstable and chooses her own downward plight. YOU are a healthy individual who recognizes the need for a healthy relationship. Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 20:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by beentheredonethat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend that pulled the same sh!t, he never cut very deep or took quite enough pills to actually kill him. I finally grew tired of it one day when he made another threat upon his own life. I told him to make sure he went outside to do it so he wouldn't make a mess for someone else to be forced into cleaning up. Funny thing, he never threatened that crap again. I broke off the relationship 15 years ago and he is still alive.
2006-12-01 21:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who you both can talk to, like a counselor or therapist. I think it would be wise for you to make an appointment alone first and tell him/her what you are dealing with and then see what advice he/she will give you...then make an appointment for the both of you and maybe that will help her in life in general with her issues and maybe even get over the break-up, if that is what you decide to do...
2006-12-01 21:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her to a counselor as soon as possible and not just for her own sake. You need to get all this on the record in case she does do something crazy. You need to talk to her family, her counselor, her doctor, her priest, everyone, then you should get as far away from her as possible. No further contact.
2006-12-01 20:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell a teacher and councelor about her and your parents so she can get help!! i know a girl who was like that, her boyfriend broke up with her and she did it for attention, she soon got over it so, so will your girlfriend!!
tell her you cannot handle how weird she is, and you know shes only doing it to seek attention and thats not a way to save a relationship. she is treating you awfully, you shouldnt stay with her one more second, its not your fault if she kills herself, shes the weirdo to want to do that over some guy!!
good luck
2006-12-01 20:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by sabina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her parents know that she's suicidal? She needs more help than you would be able to provide. You don't want anything on your conscious if she does end up doing something to herself behind you.
2006-12-01 20:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go tell her school counselor (or parents if they're supportive), the situation she's stuck you in isn't an uncommon one. After that, find the period key on your keyboard man!
2006-12-01 20:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has too much emotional baggage. Dump her, get an emotionally balance girlfriend.
2006-12-01 20:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋