my boyfriend is the kind of guy that is really laid back and calm about everything! but the thing is that he likes to play fight and i do too, but when i gets ruff and i tell him to stop, he does not!! i end up having bruses all over my body and they hurt really bad! what can i do to let him know in a nice way that he is hurting me and it needs to stop before our relationship is over?
2006-12-01 20:07:53 · 22 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He needs to read your question bug. You need to tell him that your a woman (girl, chick, etc.) and that your not as strong as he is, physically. Tell him you like to be playful, but, he needs to do the math and understand the phyisics. I am sure he will understand. On the otherhand, you kinda sound like you have an exit plan. When you say "before the relationship is over" what are you really thinking? Do you really like this ruff stuff? When you are 30 or 40 this sorta thing will be over for you.....is it for him?
2006-12-01 20:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by BudLt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a code word that you both agree to which will signal an immediate cessation of hostilities. Something innocuous like "orange". This will bring an end to the game immediately. A word of warning: never violate this agreement. This is something that is commonly used in S&M role playing when the pleading is often pretend. This will work. Good luck.
2006-12-02 04:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice way huh! Kick him in the nuts when he gets out of hand. Seriously, there is no cause for his actions. He's just not taking you serious at all. Say STOP and mean it if he doesn't then leave. That'll get his attention. Not a hard problem if you ask me.
2006-12-02 04:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by Double M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it mite seem mean, but when he hurts u, shriek. that'll get him 2 stop. shriek like he's killin u, even if it only hurts a little. that way u can get the point across 2 him that he's hurtin u. even if u have 2 let him feel macho n tell him he's just stronger than u, do that. ur relationship is more important than ur pride
2006-12-02 04:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by heartbroken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him just tell him next time you play fight that he has to stop being so rough that it hurts and if he doesnt stop again drop him even though he is playing he shouldnt hit you that hard...
2006-12-02 04:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and have a serious talk with him. Just don't try to do it in the middle of a play fight.
2006-12-02 04:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by jesuspimper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest stopping the play fighting all together. Or, knee him when he starts really hurting you. That would make him stop.
2006-12-02 04:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop the play fighting, when he starts it tell him the game is getting old and u dont think its funny anymore especially if he's bruising you. Tell him love shouldn't hurt.
2006-12-02 04:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, I'm sorry but I'm struggling with question. You guys like to fight, but not too hard??
If it results in pain, can it be normal or healthy to engage in this? I would start doing yoga together.
Good luck.
2006-12-02 04:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by yogineocon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playfighting, that's for children and children don't get into involved relationships with someone of the opposite sex. So are you a couple of children?
2006-12-02 05:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋