Trying to quit smoking and significant other won't help. I need suggestions.?

Question

For HEALTH and FINANCIAL reasons I have decided to quit smoking. My fiance (live together) normally smoked a pack a day but has now increased to 2 - 3 since my quitting (1 month now but I have already become sensitive to the smell). He also feels it is necessary for him socially to share his cigarettes with the fellas he works with on his construction crew (and they smoke a LOT) so the cost is going through the roof. It has become a serious problem between us. We never have money for plans we have made but HUNDREDS of $$$ are spent a month for smokes. Our wedding has even been put aside time and time again for "lack of finances". We both work and make good money but it has become obvious that what I make goes to pay household bills and his goes up in smoke. Talking about it ends up in ther arguement that he and I were both smokers when we met so why should I expect him to quit just because I decided to. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

put him on a budget,and make him smoke outside.

Answer 2

He clearly doesn't care to quit and there isn't anything you can do about that. Splitting the finances is a good idea; 2 or 3 packs a day costs what, $6000 a year or so?

Answer 3

I can tell you this. Pressuring him will make it worse. I had the same problem, wife could not quit. She got really sick with meningitis and was in the hospital for a couple weeks. When she was being discharged, I went to the doctor and asked him if he would lie to my wife and tell her that if she continued smoking she risked having this again. She never touched another cig. Not that this matters to you but I like the story. hehe

Answer 4

If you are affianced and living together you should split the bills 50/50. This will bring home to him the dollar cost of his habit. What he does with his money after the bills have been paid is none of your concern, neither is his continuing to smoke.

Answer 5

I am sorry to know u are facing this situation. I suggest that you can encourage him to stop smoking first by presenting him the facts regarding smoking, secondly by giving him tips on how to stop it. Here are just a few facts regarding smoking and its dangers:

1. Smoke from other people's cigarettes, known as secondhand smoke, also causes lung cancer. Nonsmokers who are exposed to secondhand smoke at home or work increase their lung cancer risk by 20-30 percent.

2. Cigarette smoking causes lung cancer. In fact, smoking tobacco is the major risk factor for lung cancer. In the United States, about 90 percent of lung cancer deaths in men and almost 80 percent of lung cancer deaths in women are due to smoking. People who smoke are 10 to 20 times more likely to get lung cancer or die from lung cancer than people who do not smoke.

3. The longer a person smokes and the more cigarettes smoked each day increases a person's risk for developing lung cancer.

Your fiance can try many different methods to rid of smoking habit like:
accupressure,
exercise,
patches,
herbal supplements,
professional advice

for more info check out:
http://www.clickaudit.com/goto/?39401
http://www.quitsmoking.com/
or
call 1-800-QUIT-NOW for assistance in quitting.

Answer 6

As a non smoker i hit upon it so problematic to understand people who do smoke as its clinically shown that smoking contributes to each form of wellness problems & ailments. What extra motivation do you desire. a reliable theory could be to flow to three destructive souls on your interior of reach hospice, who at a while could have been interior the comparable subject without motivation to provide up, yet my God I wager they want they could have chanced on the inducement now! i comprehend we are all to blame of undesirable conduct & excesses of one sort or yet another & i'm no exception, yet you would be doing your self ( and others around you) one huge favour via quitting. Dont choose for to provide up ' after this final packet or after the weekend or after your trip journeys or whenever you should make the determination to do it NOW, that final packet could desire to purely be the catalyst to spell disaster. reliable success !

Answer 7

smoking take away 3 minutes of your life per stick....
i suggest technical help...like packs and gums....
people who are in the transition from smoking-to- non-smoking are vulnerable to outside influence that may trigger them to smoke...for example....your the only one in the group that isnt smoking....its either the people around you force you to smoke or you give in to the urge...

Answer 8

Show him lungs of some dead smokers. Some hospitals preserve such lungs to let smoker judge for himself whether he would like to live with such ghastly lung.

Answer 9

If your mate does repect your decision to better your self by kicking this fatal habit what does that say for them. Remember self-esteem, Esteem your self you have to know you can do it for your self before any one else can believe in you. No do not expect them to quit cause you are trying to. Addictions are individual habits so you have to do it alone within your self. they will do it if and when they are ready. Congratulations to you though. Good Luck.