I am a 32yr old woman who has been married for 3 years. Lately I have been under alot of stress, dealing with my son misbehavior, financial issues and work issues. my husband is constantly asking for sex. I mean like EVERY day and sometimes i do it and ther are LOTS of times that I am just not in the mood. What am I to do? I love him and i don't want him to think he is less attractive or that I don't want him anymore. Is ther anything I can do to boost my sexual level? (PLEASE HELP HE'S HORNY!!!!!)
2006-12-01 19:27:39 · 14 answers · asked by choco-vanilla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, Stress: Son: enroll Junior in the after school program for Academic Support Mon thru Thurs from 3 to 4. My son is required to attend academic support but may opt out on the following activity. He may Not opt out of academic support. My son is thirteen, his grades and behaviors are s l o w l y improving. Very slowly.
Ask the school counselor to start counseling with your son, preferably with a male. They will notify you of any serious issues.
Agree with your husband to call Junior on all inappropriate behaviors, "Son, that was rude, I thought better of you." " Son, the cat litter is your responsiblility. Do it Now."
Establish a routine of dinner, a shower, homework or down time, and bed. He needs to go to bed.
Next time you have your cycle, tell your husband that you are going to go to bed early every night. Ask your doctor about a multi vitamin and B vitamins. Eat nutritious meals. Get some rest.
Plan a night away. Get a jacuzzi room (75 - 80 bucks) buy a bottle of wine. Bring something to put in the little refrigerator, microwave, coffee pot. Reconnect with yourself and your man.
Resume normal life....(Ugh).....the three weeks you are not on your cycle, decide what days are the most stressful say, Tuesday because that's when you have the manager's meeting, and let him know in advance that Tuesday you are going to come home and crash.
As far as being outspoken goes, maybe when you express your opinion, you could do it in just a quieter tone of voice. It's not that you should not express your opinion, it's just you present it differently. Your call.
I really think you desperately need some down time. See what you can do about taking care of what you need, then you can address his......
2006-12-01 23:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that he can have you in 5 days time but you want him to write down what it is that he wants you to do for him and what it is that he can do to you Keep him on tender hooks over the 5 days with glimpses of you but when he gets worked up say only 4 days or 3 days till he can take you the constant arousal will make him a new man and hopefully it will set a new pattern with you teasing him with sexy gestures and him in a constant state of tension like a pot with the lid on
2006-12-02 05:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to resolve ur issue. Try talking to him and let him know all the issues u r having. let him know that it is not him but the things u r going through now. Anxiety cn cause u to feel less sexual. Try coming to an agreement or instead of everyday try every 2 days.. but u have to give him something or he might go else where.
2006-12-02 04:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women AND men go through periods where their sexual appetite drops; especially during stress, raising children, etc. Unless you can get away from the stress and the problems at home, I don't think it will improve that much. I would talk to your Dr. and get your hormones tested. There were many times I had to "fake it" just to keep the peace but it isn't being fair to yourself if you do that.
2006-12-02 03:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that when he shoulders his share of worrying about child-raising, finances, etc. you might be relaxed enough to think of sex again. At the moment it sounds like his horniness is just another demand placed upon you, with no relief or help in sight. Get him to pitch in more at home.
2006-12-02 03:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need to relax and that you're too stressed out to deal with him. Ask him if he could deal with your son to take the stress off of you. Also try talking to your doctor. They can tell you all sorts of things you can do.
2006-12-02 03:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every now and again life throws things at you that you have to swallow whether you like it or not. We all have to do things that we don't really want to at the time or risk losing what we hold dear. I moved out to live by myself now my wife goes down on me and happily does doggy style and I don't even have ask anymore.
2006-12-02 05:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by Biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to calm ur stress and relax
Dont bring things in mind when u r with him
2006-12-02 03:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Vizz_up 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enlist the help of a close and trusted girl friend.
2006-12-02 03:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out for a picnic or something, something that deos not cost much money. Go out and be romantic with each other.
2006-12-02 03:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋