Let's say that you meet someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with but they do not want kids and you do. Do you stay with this special person because you love them and give up your hope of ever having kids? Or do you give up on the relationship and the love because you want to have kids more? How do you know that if you do do this that you will find another soulmate in your lifetime? Which are you willing to risk not having?
2006-12-01 19:00:59 · 15 answers · asked by Serinity4u2find 6 in Education & Reference ➔ Trivia
never overlook yourself and your goals and dreams to please someone else. children are a blessing and a miracle. and if you pass that up for a man..........just not worth it
2006-12-01 19:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by blackqueen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This relationship sounds liek the one I was recently in. I do not want kids and she did. I ended the relationship, and part of it had to do with that issue, there were other things wrong but the children issue did play a role. I think that the relationship will not work out if you have regrets for getting into it, and I mean serious regrets. I am not talking about regretting the fact that you cant date other people or dont like the way he snores at night, I mean things like not being able to have kids. If the person sacrifices so much at the start the relationship probably will not last. As far as finding a soulmate, if the person has such different opinions on such a huge subject they are probably not soulmates.
2006-12-02 03:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sapphire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always the possibility that there is someone else out there for you, and maybe the fact that your partner does not want kids could be the sign you need. On the other hand, maybe its not meant to be for you to have kids or maybe they might change their mind. There are many possibilities. You really should do some sole searching to figure out what is most important to you. Talk to your partner again about kids and find out if this is really something that 100% they don't want. Then the decision it up to you, which will be a life changing one, so think long and hard and do what is best for only you. You don't want to wake up in 20 or 30 years regretting anything. Good Luck
2006-12-02 03:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by MRod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather risk losing a soulmate, than not having kids. Having child/children is the best thing that could ever happen to a woman. Personally, i could live without a husband, but never without my children.
2006-12-03 09:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by edith i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then I would suggest sitting down and discussing it with him. Find out why he feels that way. Then, you will need to decide which is more important to you, and only you can decide that, though in my opinion, I would suspect that if he is obstanate about not having children, (or even reluctant since it's not like it's a good thing to have a dad who just tolerates the annoying short people running around his house) then you may need to reconsider your relationship if the two of you can't work something out.
2006-12-02 03:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by yama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will give up on the relationship and the love because I want to have kids.
2006-12-02 03:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Amer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, if you have the stomach for this suggestion you will have your cake and eat it too.
Keep this guy as the boytoy and find an accountant type, a good provider to have those babies with.
You can go on for years of having a lover. You will keep your girlish figure because you will have a reason to live not just change diapers.
Why can't you have it all in one man you say??? Because you simply can't. Please try it. You have nothing to lose. You have one life. Guilt can be good. Adventure.
I speak from experience :)
2006-12-02 03:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by laxthefacts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, you'll never experience a greater eathly love than the love you'll have for your children. My belief is that there are probably several people you'll meet on your path that would be wonderful to share your life with. They each have unique qualities, but a great life with them will depend on how hard you work on the relationship.
2006-12-02 03:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by coandso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have many different loves but childrens with your own blood and flesh only the ones you choose to have. I think a man do not deserve that sacrifice. And you will regret that.
2006-12-02 03:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by speedy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you could keep your maternal instincts bottled up FOREVER for this guy.
Your describe someone who does not sound like your soulmate.
2006-12-02 03:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by chupis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I found the right person, there were absolutely no reservations or conditions -- I wanted to be with her, no matter what. In the event, it did not happen.
2006-12-02 03:04:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋