what to doif you just had enogh with life?please help read details..?

Question

well i am only 23 years old and tired of my boring life i am married and have a 3 month old son and feeel like my husband and me are bored with each other what are signs that marriages are over and how can i have a fun life again...

Answer 1

Welcome to life.

Try to have a date night with you hubby, where someone can watch you little one for a few hrs.

Try to get a new hobby that you can learn while baby is napping, like scrapbooking all of you new baby pictures

Try doing some family oriented activities, like going for a walk together, eating at the table together, etc.

Answer 2

Honey, you guys just moved and had a baby, two huge Life events. Are you talking to the folks back home enough?

It's one thing to move to a new place, start a new life, and learn about your new life together. It's another to have a child without your lifetime support system. All the caretaking falls on him.

Marriages aren't over when you aren't having fun. Marriages end when the partners stop working cooperatively.

Ask your man if there is anyone at work in a situation similar to yours: close to your age, possible recent move, infant or toddler at home....Ask them to dinner and a video at your place, odds are she's going a little nuts, too....

Find a local church and go when they have services. Usually there are coffee hours afterwards and there may be parents of infants there also. Or maybe a grandparent of an infant. Give yourself a support network.

Oh, and take another look at your baby's Daddy. He goes to work, he comes home to spend the evening bored (with you), he was willing to make the monumental move with you and the baby. He left everyone behind, too....

Right after the birth of a child, til they're about 2, your life s l o w s down. You need rest, he needs rest. And sleep starts to become a driving need. Do what you can do to get the house in order and maintain. Enjoy your routine with your little son...he's beautiful, isn't he? He needs his daddy.

Ask your man to pick a board game. No one does this anymore, but it is fun. I play with my son. (My guy won't do it, usually....he likes the laptop) anyway, Risk is cool, and we play chess. Just spend some time being his friend. Maybe winner gets to ask loser for something....or play strip poker....

You are independent of family, judgement, obligations to extended family....you are an adult, with a fun, fun infant, and you have alone time with your man. Can't be all bad, dear. Count your blessings every day. Ask him every day if there is anything you can do for him. (It is nice when he picks up this habit, too.)

Take a good look at the three lives you hold in your hands. You can nurture them or tear them apart. Choose wisely.

Answer 3

Honestly, I just think you're young and you're new at this.
Find out if you really love your husband... if you can still picture your life with him years from now. I'm sure you really can... because you married the guy. Marriage can't be exciting ALL the time. You fight, you love, you hate, you make up. It's pretty much a roller coaster. But just knowing that he'll be by your side is what makes life worth while.


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But if you really want to know the signs of an ending marriage... I found this out for you. It's from http://www.enotalone.com/article/2969.html.

Since communication breakdown is often a glaring sign on the road to Splitsville, it isn't surprising that one partner in a relationship is often caught off guard by the dreaded delivery of divorce papers. Below are seven warning signs of a marriage going sour.

1. The Stranger Beside You

Do you and your partner spend hours together under the same roof, at social engagements or performing routine errands, yet rarely engage in meaningful conversation? Existing in silence is a primary symptom of major marital problems.

2. Under a Microscope?

Do you feel like your every action is being watched and criticized by your partner? Can you do no right in their eyes? Too often partners will funnel larger relationship issues into negative criticism of day-to-day tasks.

3. Heard It Through the Grapevine

Has your major source of information about your partner - their career, problems and personal achievements - become mutual friends and overheard phone conversations? When you start becoming "the last to know," communication needs to happen.

4. What's That Smell?

Over time, your comfort level will inevitably end that desire to look "perfect" for every encounter with your partner. However, a drastic decline in personal appearance and hygiene by your spouse could be a sign of surrender.

5. Infomercials and Baywatch Reruns

If the buzz of your household's television becomes constant, there may be a problem. It is common for individuals to overwhelm themselves with distractions (television, books, model-building in the basement) to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage.

6. Drama Without Purpose?

Do you feel like a Broadway actor giving the same performance eight times a week? If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast. You may need the assistance of a professional counselor to help direct these conversations.

7. 1-900-HELP-ME

Is the physical intimacy in your relationship so far gone that calling up a party line seems like it would be worth $20 a minute? A significant decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a flailing relationship.

If the scenarios in this article seem all too familiar, there are several things to keep in mind when dealing with these issues and making decisions about marriage or divorce:

Marriages rarely fix themselves. Don't walk on eggshells, afraid to bring up sensitive issues. If your relationship is on the rocks and you aren't moving toward either a solution or dissolution, then you aren't actively managing the process and need to take a more proactive role.
Don't be afraid to rely on professionals. Marriage counselors, couples retreats and communication workshops are great first steps to reviving a relationship and building a stronger, more balanced partnership.
If divorce seems inevitable, start preparing. If your instinct says your relationship won't last, be proactive: have an initial consultation with a lawyer and make copies of important financial and legal documents.



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It's what makes a marriage work.

Answer 4

Marriage is not easy at the beginning, people think that it will be full of love and romance, well, it is not that at all, it is so hard to get to know a new person, live with him and adapt to his life style.
It is really boring sometimes, but really, you make your own happiness, try to be cheerful, do things on your own , away from your husband, try new things, try new lessons, your life will change, there will be something interesting to talk to him about, other than the baby and what he did and what he ate, add a new thing to your life, find something you can look forward to ,
It will get better with time, just add new things. Go out to dinners with your friends, meet new people, go to places you never went to before.
Routine is a very boring thing in our lives
Good luck

Answer 5

Marriage is not a period of Fun life together for a few months.
But it is a lifetime of sharing Ups and Downs in life.
Support to each other when the other feels down.
Thats y ppl get together in this bond of marriage, which is supposed to last for lifetime.
U dont expect to live with ur parents or Kins, but ur spouse, cause thats what they are - Life partner.
So get the thought out of ur mind and think what u r lacking in ur relation, and have a talk with ur partner and sort things out.
Ur Son who will grow up one day would like to see his own Father And Mother together with him not in two different homes with different partners........
Learn from the ups and downs of life and never give up....
Life is to accept challenges and take it seriously simultaneously share the joys which come across to u..........

All the best" WITH" ur Hubby And Sunny.............

Answer 6

U could be feeling like this becasue of depression it's called "baby blues". Tell ur husband how u feel. I would also suggust that u speak to ur doctor about how u feel this might be because of the hermones from having the baby!! GOOD LUCK!!
My sister felt the same way 4 yrs ago after my nephew was born 8 weeks early & was in the NICU her doctor had to give her an anti-depressant to battle her baby blues!! She is alot better now with 3 boys & is still married!!

Answer 7

Since you are young and got married at a young age, your life is just begining. You and your husband need to find things to do with each other to ignite that fire again....Sometimes getting married at any age, we don't really know who we're marrying as time passes, we find out that we may have married the wrong person....You guys may just need to sit down and talk.....High school/college love is a big difference when we get older and that is another reason when you marry young, you realize this was not meant to be.....Sit down and be honest with each other if it is the end....Your questions will be answered.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

First I would talk to your doctor, you probably have 'post partum depression' or the 'baby blues' common after childbirth. Talk to your husband, you are young and have a tough road ahead... that's just life. Hold your baby often it may make you both feel better. Good Luck!

Answer 10

First thing you must do is talk to each other about your feelings. Try going out as a family together, to the beach or on picnics, and occasionally do some thing different to surprise and excite your partner.