My husband says I am spending way too much time on the computer and little or no time with our daughter or him. He says he has been very leanient with me over this computer, hoping I would fit in my motherly and wifely duties in with my schedule. I just can not help myself. I am addicted to the Internet. I have no other issues, just a fascination with the Internet. The time has come where my husband has said, "ENOUGH!!!" He is even threatening to cancel the Internet service, which I think is UNFAIR. I was wondering how many other wives are "Internet-addicted"? And for those of you who live in a household where your husband is the Head of the Household, what do you do to assure that you keep the Internet stays on? Any suggestions for my situation?
2006-12-01 18:53:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I totally understand. I am a stay at home wife and mother and like to spend time on the internet. Unfortunately I got in trouble recently for not doing the laundry (because I was spending too much time online.) Got my first spanking in several months, and it was not pleasant. Try to get it under control before you get in trouble.
2006-12-02 13:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ask your man how much time he feels is appropriate for you to spend at the computer.
Ask him what specifically he would like to see you accomplish when not on the computer.
Try to accommodate him. You've pushed your limit. Don't make it worse. Resolve this as a partner in a marriage, not a remiss child. Forget FAIR and unfair. What's going to put the family on an even keel? This is your responsiblilty. You can make this a major issue, or you can respect where he is and keep peace. Your call.
2006-12-02 05:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...a mature grown-*** woman....would look at her situation and say "DAMN...it's either I grow up and learn time management, or I lose one or the other, my husband, or my internet....hmm" which in this case you know you have to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, work , whatever you do...and i'm pretty sure you manage time for those necessities, well now you have to add in 2 more attributes..your husband...and your daughter...
Does your husband enjoy sex? Cause I know if you can give him 2 hours (or whatever) of some certified good stuff then he'll shut up about his time. Otherwise just give him the amount of hours he wants for whatever he wants to do with you.
And for the baby too, going out to the park.....or HELL get your daughter hooked on ther INTERNET...so that way you kill 2 birds with one stone, enjoying the internet WITH your baby...show her all your sites, and what you do...teach her to type...all that...there's nothing wrong with making your baby computer-literate.
I'm addicted to the internet too, but i make sure i have time for my family and ESPECIALLY my fiance......oh yes if the entire day was meant for non-stop loving from my baby...then i'm sorry the main priority is her.....love and sex whoops the internet's *** anyday.....
Which can pose another question...what do you love more? Your family or the internet? Cause if the internet wins....then you gotta question why you're even married.....cause that's just crazy.
2006-12-02 03:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband says the same thing, but I can't help it, but I try to stay away from the computer while he is home, but if he was busy doing something I run to the Internet, husbands are annoyed when the wives are busy and not giving them any attention.
Just try to avoid Internet while he is home or when he needs you around
2006-12-02 03:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's right. I'm on the internet quite often, but i would never give up time with my kids or hubby to do so. Life is too short. My advice spend time with your family. I know this is not the advice you wanted but it's honest. You need to sit down with hubby and find out how much time he thinks is appropriate and then come to a middle ground.
Good luck,
M
2006-12-02 03:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by M P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As if he doesnt have a hobby he could spend hours on and probably has!!!
Mine says as long as I'm happy and the cleaning and food is finished, go on the internet (Im also not bothering him with all the odd jobs needing done around the house, too) as long as I like.
2006-12-02 03:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by miladybc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually you will lose your hubby for good if you keep running back to the internet. Use your brain.Would you rather sit on the internet alone without having a family?
2006-12-02 06:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How nice of your husband to be so lenient with you. As a problem, the amount of time you spend online pales into insignificance compared to the way you allow yourself be treated by your husband. Might I suggest that you are using the internet as a means of escape from a life of perpetual domination.
2006-12-02 03:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your addicted.. pull the plug, spend time with your daughter, attack your husband in bed and get your life in order...
I gave up gaming over a year ago for the same reason, I drift into here just a short time before bed...
very bad habbit and you need to shut it off and move on...
2006-12-02 03:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a computer in every room so when you do your priorities the internet is right next to you.
2006-12-02 02:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋