And he just wants you to be his 'baby's mother', not wife. What are the benefits of being married with kids vs. having kids out of wedlock?
2006-12-01 18:41:40 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run fast!
2006-12-01 18:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen...Is he taking care of the kids? Food, insurance, school, are these covered? You can't force a guy into marrying you. And trust me, you wouldn't want to. The more you push the subject, the more likely he'll jet on you. If he's meeting his responsibilities and you actually getting along...let it be. If he's stuck you in some roach infested flophouse while he's out being a Playa spendin' Gs on his new spinners....Take the kid and hit the road.No warning, Don't tell you friends or his. Don't go to any town where you know anybody. Make sure you can do it in one trip. It's pretty much that simple.
2006-12-02 02:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by riddler2237 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no benifits to having babies our of wedlock. You have no legal standing like a wife would and your children will suffer without a father. If the man does not want to marry you why on earth would you be having his baby unnecessarily? Is that all you want for yourself? he will tell you anything if you are fool enough to go for it. Do I need to say more of do you get it now. This man is using you and will continue to use you. when you become his baby mamma you willbe tied to him and he is not going to take care of you or the baby and very few men want a womam with another man's baby You are smarter than this. You cannot love someone who thinks so little of you? Respect yourself and get rid of this baby making bum
2006-12-02 02:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either cut your losses now or learn to deal with what he wants. It sounds like he isn't interested at all.. I'd say to wait it out a bit if he said he's not ready for marriage just yet, but this guy seems dead set against it.
Personally as someone who does want to get married, If i was with someone who didnt want to get married, I'd cut my losses and move on. Especially if i was ready to get married. By just waiting around for no reason, you are wasting time with someone who doesn't want the same things you do.
The benefits of marriage are insurance, responsibility, tax benefits among other perks like it makes it a little harder for the person to just up and leave and cut all ties. Plus if you are married, he would be liable for alimony payments if you were to get divorced.
2006-12-02 02:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no advantages for the woman having kids out of wedlock.
2006-12-02 04:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you move on. What a shame - you should have been thinking of stability before you had kids with the man! Now you have changed your mind..... if you are living with him, he has no need or want to get married if he is getting everything he wants. You need to get independent and grow a spine.
2006-12-02 08:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to that question. You need to find a man that wants the same thing you do. Don't cheat yourself and settle.
You may love him and he may love you, but you need to find a partner who's life is heading in the same direction as yours.
You will get alot more out a relationship like that, and you will have alot more to offer children.
Good luck,
M
2006-12-02 02:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by M P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess get out of this relationship ... There is lot more in life than be a mother atleast for the first few yrs of marriage
Regards
Sameer Shaikh
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
2006-12-02 02:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if he marries you, he'll be stuck paying more child support after he dumps you.
Trust me, if he wants kids without marriage, then he's a punk: dump him and go find a real man.
2006-12-02 02:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by screaminhangover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lacks maturity and responsibility. Please DONT marry him,
And above all, do NOT have children with him. Enjoy your independence and one day when you're least expecting it, someone with character will enter your life.
2006-12-02 03:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋