I am separated for a yr almost & going thru a divorce after being
married 12 yrs. I had to separate & get an apt a yr ago almost because the ***** of an ex- drove me out. (I should have fought & stayed and made her move out). We both own the house & I
am still paying my mortgage for it. My attorney & her attorney want me to stay away from my own house- and yet the s.o.b. of an ex-
is enjoying my house, and some guyshe may be with may be
there also sometimes. The betrayal I feel makes me sad and
also angry. And then when I think both are in MY house,
that just m,akes me downright pissed...!!!!!!!!!!!
I want to rain on her parade. Why should I just let her enjoy my
house, much less with some other jerk ??If she
wants to be with someonel else, do it with her own money ! Shoudl I go with company & visit and go back to the house ,just to
disturb her and show I can be there if I want to be at MY house..?
I want to rain on her parade-or should I fight to move back in the
house
2006-12-01 17:44:24 · 8 answers · asked by don;t know 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DId you get the house before marriage? Is both names on the house?....I had a situation for both questions...I'm in FL and one of my friends got married but since her credit was bad, he put the house in his name only. He did move out but when they were going thru the divorce and since the house was acquired by him, she had a time limit to move out of the house and he moved back in.....The other hand I have a cousin that went thru a divorce and they had to sell the house and split the profits.....Another thing you must ask yourself, if you have kids, Is it right for her to have to uproot and find another place to live because of my anger when she is taking care of my kid(s)?I know it is a hurtful thing but calm down and think this over and don't do anything stupid out of anger...GOD will deal with her on his own......Take care of yourself and pray to get this anger out of you because there are too many things happening with married couples that are seperated/divorcing and someone ends up dead.....Do what's right not only for you but for the kids, if this applies...
2006-12-02 00:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bought the house BEFORE you were a married couple then in some states its NOT community property. Only what is acquired in a marriage. Then its 50/50 on boths behalf.
Unless some Judge has ruled it hers and you have to pay then forget it. You are screwed. If no court order says you gotta pay, then all you have to risk is probably default on the home loan and let the repossession people take it away from her.
A man can usually rebuild his credit rating easier than a woman for the fact he is a "man" and has usually had a steady job and track record. Divorce damages a woman the most in society.
Weigh your odds if you have any recourse as mentioned on this house. Then maybe worst case you may have to rebuild your credit, she can play in the street. Ask your attorney about this type of recourse if you have any of the above forementioned criteria to work with. GOOD LUCK. Hope it all works in your favor. Then maybe that rain will be a Hurricane.
2006-12-02 02:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing you want to do is make an a%^ out of yourself. Going back to the house would do just that.
If you want just desserts, make it a stip[ulation in your divorce that the house must go on the market within 30 days and the proceeds from the house be split between the two of you.
That way, if you can't have the house, neither can he, and he will be in an apartment in no time.
Be patient, and think things through. It will all come to a head in no time. DO NOT GIVE HIM THE UPPER HAND. If you go back to the house, he wins. He will see that you are truly bothered by all of this and he wil proceed to dig into you at every chance. Don't give the (p)rick the satisfaction.
2006-12-02 02:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur attorney should have fought harder and it depends on what state ur in because some states have longer waiting periods for divorce than others. If you are in a community property state she should have to pay you for your portion if she assumes the house. You should not have to still pay for it if it is not in the court orders!
2006-12-02 01:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Dre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make her sell the house and give you your share or you can buy her out. That way she can go somewhere else and you will feel better knowing that she is no longer enjoying the house that you called home while you were married with another man.
2006-12-02 02:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother, sorry to hear that.
I dont think u shd contemplate fighting back cos you'd not have the law on your side.
Painful but true...
2006-12-02 01:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Bruno Tataglia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't live there, don't pay the bills, unless the court orders you to then pay only half
2006-12-02 03:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wtf?she living there and u pay???
i say scew the bills for the house.
she gotta pay for it
2006-12-02 02:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋