any advice on how to catch a cheating husband?

Question

he cheated on me last year before christmas, he said it was a stupid mistake and we were having a lot of problems, but i still suspect him of doing wrong sometimes, any way i can set him up and see what happens or just some how catch him? I think i need to really see with my own eyes him doing something for ot to be real to me.

Answer 1

Your question should have been "Any advice on how to catch a husband cheating?" and not "How to catch a cheating husband?" for if it is already a given that he is a cheating husband, then that means he is already caught!

He already established that he is a cheating husband, so why do you want to catch him again?

Your real question should be, "What are the symptoms that a cheating husband has reformed his ways?"

Until you see reform your suspicions will never abate. Once burnt, twice shy.

Is he making excuses to miss work (cheating employee) and appointments to be with you?

Has the time he used to invest with his GF been transferred to your account since the admission or is he still AWOL to the same degree?

Any significant change in your relationship, his feelings for you, or in any way since the admission?

If things don't seem markedly NEW & IMPROVED since the admission, then things are probably about the same as they were before the admission, except that now he is being more careful.

If you are going to be a fool for love, at least don't be blind about it. If you are unwilling to be so, then you have options.

Answer 2

Why the heck do you want to set him up and make him do something wrong just to prove for yourself that he is doing something wrong? If you have lots of signs indicating that he is at it again and things are smelling fishy, you can catch him in whole different ways. Check the laundry out in case you smell women's perfume or anything else you can catch in it. If he is too fresh and seems showered when he returns home supposedly from work, that's one give away. Check your bills, check your accounts, see what's happening and where he's spending. Worse comes to worst, follow him (on days he sounds strange and says he's working late or is going somewhere) and if you can (borrow a friend's car or hire one instead of using yours, so you are not spotted). Don't set a trap for him, he will turn it right back on you and tell you that you did not trust him enough or/and you set him up and it was your mistake (making it sound as if otherwise he would have been good loyal man).

Answer 3

I wouldn't set him up. You could get a private investigator if you suspect something. Usually if you suspect something, your gut instinct is right. If he says he is going to be somewhere, you could surprise him with a gift of some sort and see if he is there. If not, then he has some explaining to do. I would have a hard time being with someone who cheated on me. I have been cheated on before, and I commend you on giving him a second chance. I am praying for you and your husband. Honesty and communication and trust have to be in the relationship or you don't have one. I feel for you. Have you had counseling? Did he go? Hugs to you. I wish you well.

Answer 4

Check emails, phone records, mileage on the car, bank & credit accounts, key logging, security camera's - they are all good. But the best is your instinct. If you think he is then he probably is. Remember "If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - then it's most likely a fraking duck!" And problems or no problems last year - if he cheated then - he was probably doing it before that. Men who cheat seldom if ever change their ways! It's like an addiction - they always think they can find someone better, someone who understands them, someone who will give them more sex, money, fun, (whatever) - it's always wanting more! My advice to you - if you have to prove it to yourself - then do it - then get a shark for an attorney and take the SOB to the cleaners! Remember it's not just that he's betraying you - he's literally risking your life - who knows what the other woman is like - she could be some total skank and who knows who she has slept with - but guess what - everyone that she's slept with - now you have too! Are you willing to take the risk of all the STD's out there? Move on - there are better men out there - they aren't always easy to find - but they are there! Good luck - my thoughts and prayers are with you!

Answer 5

Trust... is the utmost thing you need in a marriage. If you feel he's cheating again or never healed from the first time you have a couple options.
1) See a marriage counselor with your husband
OR
2) Hire a Private investigator, bust him and divorce his cheating behind!

Answer 6

It's already been real to you. He should be the one digging for your trust now. Guy's like that never change, its in their blood to keep on getting as much, and as much, and as much as they can from girls. One way you could set him up, is have someone follow him around for a day. Or when he says hes going out to do something, volunteer to come with him, no matter what it is. Then if he say's something like no, or i think it'd be better if i went alone, then you can catch him and be like why, whats the big deal, i want to spend time with you kinda thing, then you can find out whats really going on with him

Answer 7

Sweetie, you know when he's cheating..men tell on themselves...For example, cell phone on vibrate, cuffing the phone, going out all the time with his friends, patterns change(not doing what he usually does), sex changes, ridiculous arguments and he leaves because he's mad. There are many ways. You don't need an private investigator when you have WOMEN'S INSTINCTS and you know in your heart what he's doing...Talk to him and if he doesn't talk to you and starts an argument, do not nag him, make your decision about what you want to do...Never be scared to be by yourself...You need to keep yourself happy and enjoy life as it is too short...You do not need a man in your life to define you and especially a mut.....

Answer 8

R U fishing or what? If you think he is cheating why do u need to know? If you are so convinenced ...LEAVE. Guys really hate it when we ARE NOT CHEATING and are accused. What are your suspesions based on? last year, has he done anythinf recently to make you think he is? Setting him up makes you as guilty as he is...You mess up the natural order of things by putting him in a situation to do something he may not normally do!

Answer 9

Just say you have found unusual things around the house and in his car. Tell him you want an explanation.. if he's dumb enough he will fall for it and tell you something. If that doesn't work, why not check his phone bills and emails? See who he has been talking to and what times, then go by that and see if you can figure out where he's doing it.

*Phone records, not phone bills. I told my boyfriend to get his phone records for me and he did-needless to say he had been talking to his ex numerous times w/out telling me or even mentioning it. AFTER he says he hates her.

Answer 10

If you know that he is cheating on you then he is not worth the trouble. Once a cheater always a cheater. Have some respect for yourself and dump him. I know it's hard but you will never find happiness if you stay with him. Trust me I know.......