I am like a child when it comes to Christmas. He says it is for kids only and gifts too. He is a wonderful guy except for this.
2006-12-01 17:43:37 · 10 answers · asked by windspirit 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I'm right there with you. My hubby's the exact same way, but as soon as I got the tree out & was putting up decorations then his whole mood changed. Christmas does have a certain magic about it, like you said, but for some reason your other half doesn't feel the magic. Talk to him & find out why that is...maybe he had a bad experience with Christmas as a kid, or it might be something else that makes him feel the way he does. Once you get to the source then it will be easier to understand where he's coming from. Could be he doesn't like the pressure of having to buy "the perfect gift" or how the season is so commercialized. Regardless, you should definitely enjoy the magic of Christmas, and never loose that, even if your other half could care less. Good luck, and MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! :)
2006-12-01 22:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jen RN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a reason for it. My wife is very Christmas person, while I am not. Reason? I grew up in a religion very close to Judaism. Does this mean I'm a scrooge? No, it means I believe things a little different then most people. Christ wasn't born in December, wasn't born in a "barn", and christmas today means almost nothing religiously speaking. That said, I participate as much as I am able to, and my wife accepts that. We do the tree, lights, music, etc, and when I've had enough, I do something else. My thoughts are, even though I know better, she doesn't:p
2006-12-01 18:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by nerdist_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you this must be a guy thing. I am the same way 31 and I am like a 6 year old. I get so excited when it is time to open presents. But my hubby and my father both care less. Put up the tree and the lights omg its like killing them. So here is what i say. Let them be grinches and we girls have all the fun. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-01 17:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only one day of the year, yes a big one but only one. If the other 364 are working then take this one one step at at a time. He's an adult so he's formed his own opinions and is somewhat set in his ways. You both need to compromise, he gives a little and, in the beginning, you give a lot. But don't cave, just nudge him along slowly.
2006-12-01 17:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl... i luv Christmas too!!! Just show him how much fun Christmas can be by decorating the house, eating yummy food and just being happy!!! Or take him to like England or Germany, so he can experiance the real spirt of Chrismas...
He should catch on....
2006-12-01 17:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lime Jelly ♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dealt with this same situation for the past 15 years. I am finally in a place where I am able to be happy regardless of how my husband feels about the holiday season. Just try to be positive towards him anyways and maybe someday he will snap out of it, and be able to enjoy this wonderful time of year. Try to withstand his negativeness towards the season, and don't let him convince you that this is a bad time of year. Just go on with your cheeriness, and enjoy everything around you no matter what.
2006-12-01 18:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your guy he needs to get into the christmas spirit! christmas isn't even about the gifts! it's about celebrating jesus' birth, celebrating being with friends and family, it's a celebration of love! gifts are just icing on the cake, and aren't required for christmas!
besides, who doesn't love christmas except for scrooge???
2006-12-01 17:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't very religious is he? he's right in a way though...people have made it about the gifts and decorations,and i love all the magic of that too, but Jesus is the reason for the season. you said that your like a child and he says it's for kids....well try to show him the light w/o shoving it down his throat you kno? well good luck!
2006-12-01 17:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by myself 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem with my boyfriend three years ago. I was so sad that he didnt share my joy. He saw that he upset me so he made some effort to pretend to care. Then my enthusiasn started to be contagious and year by year he appreciated the season more. Now this year, HE is the one who was even more excited than me to get the tree and decorations up!! :) So dont give up hope. Your excitement can rub off on him
2006-12-01 18:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by answers4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how important it is to you and don't give up talking to him about it until he understands. The only way to solve problems in relationships is to talk about them.
2006-12-01 18:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Alex M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋