In my life many girls came in m y life (in College, in university) but i never talked to any of them, due to shame. I am so shy, what can i do for success.
2006-12-01 17:28:06 · 12 answers · asked by Jfaisal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sweety, just be yourself. we can tell you know!! ;o)
when my husband and i met we both connected because for once we both met a person who was genuine and honest with each other and not into playing silly games. i looked into his eyes and saw a real good guy and that is who i have been married to now five years (dating for a year only!!).
p.s. Good guys get further with real women!
2006-12-01 17:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is key. But do not confuse confidence for arrogance. Big no-no.
The best way is to just go up and talk to her. Be honest with whatever you say. You can flatter her, but be careful not to actually "hit" on her. That tends to be seen as disrespectful. Be natural with your speech, laid back, and funny. That's always attractive.
Also, it's a good idea to get some friends that are girls, so that you can ask them for advice. Girls always give the best advice about girls. Makes sense, yeah?
2006-12-01 17:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with her and Mostly listen. its easier to do. remember you don't have to fill all the empty space ina conversation. but you do have to care about what she says. I have experience with this kind of thing..... My "i-wish-she-was-my-girlfriend but-she's-going-out-with another-guy" 's friend said i'm like a farel dog, extremely shy, but when i sit down and talk with agirl i get lost in the converstion. you should try it. who know you may make a friend that changes your life. don't be ashamed, just talk, and care. if you really like someone its gonna come out wheather you like it or not, so instead of letting it slip and scare/intimidate her, focus your love and relate to her and she'll pick up on it. Good luck, remember to listen and not be afraid they don't bite that hard and most people are so worried about how they come across, they dont even notice the other person's flaws, hey i bet you were soo worried about messing up while talking to a gilr that you didn't even stop to consider if she was scared to talk to you too.... just a thought.
Happy talking and goodluck with your major
2006-12-01 17:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. do as i do and do nothing and you will be alone like me.
so stop moping and be genuine. go up to the woman you think you want to date and start talking make friends first. if a romance is meant to blossom then it will blossom. if not then at least you may still have a new friend in your life.
I'm loathed to say it but match.com has some good tips. but the site in my experiance was full of scam artistes claiming to be looking for dates, when they are just after your wallet.
that makes me sound mean. but seriously all they wanted was money and not a relationship, so be on your guard.
2006-12-01 17:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, women will not even be attracted to a guy if he doesn't demonstrate self-confidence. Let's face it, even in our society where women are bread-winners and equals to their male counterparts (or are at least getting close to be treated as such - as they deserve) you cannot change thousands of years of men providing for a family. Regardless of our sex, we look at a potential mate for their ability to provide us with offspring and provide shelter. Your shyness is a detractor to this. Before you can talk to a woman you like, you have to find a way to overcome this trait. Once you gain confidence, women will start to seek you out. I learned back in college that if I went out to the bars with the right "attitude" my chances for meeting women increased dramatically. Just tell yourself that "the kid is hot" and live the feeling. In time, your outlook with change and you'll feel much easier approaching this woman you like.
2006-12-01 17:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by urminen99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course begin with a simply "hi" then tell her something you like about for example her hair, eyes, hands, or the way she did something..., an important thing when you talk to a girl is that you to listen her, pay lots of of attention because they like a lot to be listen... good luck man!!!
2006-12-01 17:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ernesto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If a girl comes along and wants to get to know you...then ROCK ON!!! If she doesn't....then I will have to say the most cliche thing in the world: there are plenty of other fish in the sea....but hurry before they run out of fish....
2006-12-01 18:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Begin with 'Hi'. See her response and then start with small talks. Ask for her cell no. mess her with decent jokes, morning wishes and if you recieve mess from her side then go ahead confidently.
2006-12-01 17:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by simran s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say hi
2006-12-04 07:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Plummer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking more n more. Ask her how she`s been etc.
2006-12-01 17:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋