I date hispanic and black men because that is what I am attracted to and they must like me too because that is what I attract. I never have a white guy hit on me, which is fine. But when I date outside my race, some spanish family members always have a problem with me or it seem I always get comments from black and spanish girls who don't even know me or my date but always have something to say that is negative and none of their business anyways. Will this ever slow down because I am sick of the comments and what I percieve to be some jealousy. Not jealous of me but jealous I am in a relationship. Comments please and please no ignorant people please.
2006-12-01 17:05:55 · 12 answers · asked by l'il mama 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Those types of people hate on your because they don't like the idea of a white woman "taking their men."
They ARE jealous and it's so stupid. Asian guys have told me that I'm a "sell out" and that I must hate my own race because I date a white man instead of an Asian one. Just because they can't get a date doesn't mean that they have to start calling me names.
I'm not white but I've definitely been subjected to racism when I was a child up until the 6th grade because I moved away.
2006-12-01 17:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To answer your first question: Yes. Whites can be the target of discrimination and racial slurs just like anyone else can. I grew up in Hawaii and have a long sob story about being a little Caucasian girl who was constantly tormented about her skin color and mannerisms, getting abuse from everyone from the school bully to my own teachers.
To answer your second question: Yes, it will slow down as you get older. Age brings respect and temperance, and hopefully wisdom. As you age, people will assume you know what you are doing, and as the people around you age, they will learn that it's none of their business. The crass comments will never stop entirely, there will always be some jerk who feels like they need to stand up for their 'culture'. Just keep in mind that they are saying these things partially because they feel that they are betraying their culture if they don't hassle someone who isn't the same color that they are. It's all posturing and for show. And that too will diminish with age.
Oh, and occasionally? It's just foot-in-mouth disease. People get uncomfortable around people who are different, and are liable to say things that are hurtful without realizing it. Just try to stay strong and shrug it off.
2006-12-01 17:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by idoniagoseling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody experiences some form of racism in their lives, unfortunately some more than others.
I've dealt with it for most of my life.
You date whoever you want and when you are out with your partner you keep your head held high and don't give those folks the satisfaction of letting them bring you down.
Things won't change overnight. Racism is an old idea that's going to take some serious time to wear itself out.
Maybe when it becomes less of an issue for you it won't matter what people say anymore because you won't let it effect you.
2006-12-01 17:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Spandito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well get used to it if you are going to date black or hispanic men. You are not going to be accepted by all people in the black or hispanic race, the same way all whites don't accept us even if we date a white person. It may not be right, but that's life.
You just have to ignore them and enjoy your partner.
2006-12-01 17:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and who havent . But im not white and the advise i am going to give you and you may have herd before is that you shouldnt care what people thank and if it becomes a problem with his family. try to ignore it because they probaly just nurvous about leting some one thats not the kind of race thay are in thair family
wait and let thim worm up to you dont let thim get the best of you
and if they dont worm up to you by a month or two then you have a serious problem but i thank they should!!!!
2006-12-01 17:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by kathalina h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you just do what you think it is right, don't care much about others, they are there all the time making comments, no matter what you do, they are always out there, just go on.
2006-12-01 17:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by Smart Warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been the victim of sexism as white and male
2006-12-01 17:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate isn't always a one way street...I can't tell you if things have actually gotten better or worse over the years..
2006-12-01 17:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody's been a victim of racism no matter what color skin they have.
2006-12-01 17:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but who cares why should you care don't let people convince you what is good for your life because it's yours
2006-12-01 17:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ashli L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋