Is it wrong to love, really love, and have a relationship with have married man, for over a year?

Answer 1

You should marry him so he can get a new mistriss

Answer 2

To love someone married is about half wrong. The part you feel is ok, love is a beautiful thing. But it has to do with will, with your decisions on the matter - you have acted and chosen the wrong way to deal with your feelings when you found out he was married. If you would've walked away a year ago you'd be over it - or at least you wouldn't be hurting yourself nor the man and his family.
But anyways, what's done is done. You have postponed the question (or the answer really) but it seems you are now facing the facts and wanting to do the right thing.
You should end this relationship.
When you feel so strongly about your own situation it is hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes but this is what you have to do. Please, do try it as best as you can, it will make things come more clear. This is for his wife and family. And then think about him. What might he feel? Both right now, when cheating, feeling guilty and unfair and being a traitor to the people who should be most dear and close to him; and if leaving his wife - do you not think he might start regretting, maybe accusing (and he should!) you not to mention himself for breaking up his family?
You asked about right and wrong. The right thing to do will hurt like hell for quite some time. But how long will the wrong decision cause everyone pain?
If you really love him, you do the best for him. That may mean you have to know better, see it all in bigger picture.
Please do the right thing.

Answer 3

YES! YES! YES! it is wrong for everyone involved. if you don't have the morals to realize that its wrong to date a married man, then think about how this is going to hurt you and your self esteem in the long run. remember, you're the "other" woman- the secret woman that no one can know about. you are NOT the woman that he married for the world to know about. I'm sure he has a million reasons why he has to stay married- kids, finances, relatives,etc., etc., etc. but the cold hard fact is that this will never be a healthy emotional relationship because you two can never hold your heads high and present yourselves as a couple. even if you can get away with going out together, you still both know that you are doing something wrong- no matter how many excuses you two have. I am sorry to hear that you are in love with him because that definitely makes it alot harder, but if you care anything about your future you should GET OUT NOW !!!! There is one thing for sure- this relationship will definitely wreak havoc on your self esteem if it hasn't already. you should definitely seek counseling tohelp you through this difficult time. it is most likely too much to handle on your own. good luck. get help.

Answer 4

Yes it's wrong to love, really love a married man. How would you feel if you were the wife who loved, really loved her husband but he was boinking somebody else. Honey it's been over a year. If he loved, really loved you, he would have left her already
Don't tell me or yourself that it's the kids or finances or anything. I was there. Married at 19 and I fell in love with someone else. I LEFT!!!! no questions, no regrets. Now 13 years later, I'm still with the man i left my first husband for because it was real love.
You need to let him go be with his wife and find someone else on the side to get his jollies off.

Answer 5

It's amazing how women will stab each other in the back over some guy. Like a married guy is the *only* g*ddamned guy in the world you are attracted to? Why - so you can prove you can get her man to turn his head with your feminine charms whenever you want?

Think about it - if women would stop sh*tting on each other and stick together, about 98% of all cheating would disappear.

Oh and by the way - he met *you* by cheating -- he'll meet your replacement the same way.

Answer 6

You know that is about as wrong as you can getl You knew it the moment you knew he was married and did not walk away. What do you want us to tell you, that it is OK. Well it is wrong and you need to stop. What goes around does come around. Would you want your husband having a relationship with some other woman? I thought not, so why are you doing that to some other poor woman?

Answer 7

You are not guilty, loving a person more than a year, especially in the shadow of his marriage, proves it's truly love, not lust, not infatuation.

Love is such a distinguish feeling that you immediately know it's not the same as other kind. Such pure feeling can never be wrong.

People may say it's wrong because "it hurts the other woman". But if the guy loves his wife, he would not turn to you. If he loves her but wants you, then he's the one who's wrong, not you. If he does love you, then it's also wrong to marry to someone he doesn't love.

Answer 8

it's wrong. while i agree it hurts the wife, at the end of the day you are not committed to her, the husband is so he's the bad guy with respect to the wife. now, as for you, you deserve more than to be 2nd best. you need a man that puts you first; that wants to marry you, not keep you as the secret other woman.

Answer 9

My plain out answer is yes. This guy is taking you on a ride. For some reason or another he ha still not seperate with his wife. Think about that one. Don't let him take you on a wild goose chase. The love part, well i can't blame you, you can't help who you all in love with. But i am 100% against being with a married man. Sorry. You should think about the wife involved , put yourself in her position.

Answer 10

my solomn response, if you are in love with a married man, you need to find love for yourself. You dont love him, its all a sexual fettish, the thought that this is sneaky, that you are shagging someones elses man. this is the reason that they call you B!t@H!!!! Get away from this man, this playa, youre only making a fool out of yourself. THen what in the end??? Are you going to be trying to call yourself a playa, or a home wrecking whore!!!?

Answer 11

Yes