okay im going threw a big problem right now, i don't know if i am lesbian or just bi?? and its killing me to know bcs ive noticed for awhile now that i find myself more attracted to girls better than guys but girls turn me on but guys just don't i dont really find them attractive but only about 3% i do but the rest, i find myself liking girls instead of guys.
can anyone tell me if im lesbian or bisexual!!
please help me out here
2006-12-01 16:40:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Why do you have to give yourself a label? Just test the waters, see which one is more your thing. I really do not think it matters that much if you like both or just one.
You will see in time which is right for you, Good Luck and don't sleep around that is not a good way of finding out either lol
2006-12-01 16:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, this is an extremely difficult question to answer with such little information. However if you are interested in a non-judgmental Christian outlook of bi-sexuality and homosexual issues is www.exodus-international.org
Although it is a difficult matter I believe that true love is a choice, whether you choose to love a man, or a woman. Also, you may find your attraction to women may be because you feel more comfortable, or because it has a aspect of being 'forbidden' which makes it more exciting. Just an idea.
I do not know if this helps at all but the provided web-site is a very good resource for anyone interested in a nice Christian prospective.
2006-12-01 16:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by azenertia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Accept the fact that you have feelings for girls...and don't get so hung up on whether that makes you "lesbian" or "bi". If you find that you really relate emotionally, sexually, intellectually with women...and the same doesn't exist with guys...then you are probably a lesbian. But there's always a chance you'll find a guy who turns you on....and then you can call yourself "bi". But, really, don't stress so much over this. Just test the waters....and enjoy.
2006-12-01 16:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you dance? Any style sense? Do you know these names? Liza, Judy, Ms Ross, Bette, Devine. Does it take you less than 10 minutes to get ready for anything? When was the last time you wore a dress, panty hose and shaved all the way from ankle to above the knee? Are the majority of your friends ex-lovers?
You're a lesbian if you answered in this order:
No, no, hell no, yes, shave up to the calve only, pretty much. Then my dear, you are so gay! Bisexual , to you is just a phrase to get a women to show you her new underpanties.
2006-12-01 16:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well have you tried being with a woman? i have friends that find women attractive but would never do anything more than kiss...then there is me, i'd be with a women, and i think women are the most arousing of the sexs, and the most beautiful of all god's creation...but i know i'm bi. so try being with a girl, and go from there. you can't really know till you try, right?
2006-12-03 20:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't know the answer yourself, I would take a break from dating and do a little work on yourself. You can never be secure in a relationship unless you take a good hard look at who you are, and I have a feeling that you have no idea who you are, in terms of sexuality or anything else. I mean no offence by that, honestly, but I do know that if you love yourself and KNOW yourself, you don't need anyone else to tell you.
2006-12-01 16:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by moejaymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're mostly lesbian, but a lot of people think there is a continuum, wherein it isn't necessarily cut and dry. Is it that important to you to have a label for yourself? Just like who you like. If we lived with love instead of labels the world would be a much better place.....good luck.
2006-12-01 16:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by lady j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhm... how old are you?
Anyone with any sense of beauty is attracted to the female form. Ladies are works of art. You're not lesbian because you are attracted to them, it is natural. Lesbianism is more the practice of intentionally rejecting men simply because they are men. Penis envy with a vengence.
The plain fact of the matter is that people are sexual creatures. We have sex for recreational purposes. With the current breakdown in social patterns and religious guidelines it is easy for a young person to be led off into some kind of 'labeling' mindset urged upon them by every facet of media. Sex has lost its proper place in our lives as a tool to help us plan for the future, and has become almost our God, dictating our future to us.
The real God of Creation can help you if you will look to Him. God created sex and knows the influence it has in our lives. He didn't put it here to cause us pain, he gave it to us as a gift to be shared with our partner in this physical world. It shouldn't be rushed into, it shouldn't be abused, it's not a toy to share with anyone and everyone.
Now obviously what I'm going to tell you is that sex is something to be shared between one man and one woman only within the context of marriage and a lifelong commitment to each other. That's the value we all should place in it. It is more precious than gold, silver, or any other riches. I strongly encourage you to put off sexual activity as long as possible, and one day a loving person and you will pair off for life and you will know it is right.
But if you choose to 'experiment' and be loose with your precious personal individuality at least don't let labels limit who you are. Find love in persons, not in packages.
2006-12-01 17:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by rumplesnitz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
congrats ur a lesbian good luck people r going 2 make ur life a living hell but hey u cant help who u r so just ignore them and try to find someone to talk 2 so u dont go crazy keeping it bottled up
2006-12-01 18:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by here to help 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't stress out about labels and date whoever you find yourself attracted to. If you want a label, just use what you think fits you the best.
2006-12-01 16:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋